(With apologies to Rodgers and Hammerstein)
Someone just now mentioned redecorating as a constructive way to make a new place feel like home and I remember finding a pot of emulsion wielded with passion was a good way to exorcise the old home of exH vibes.
Survivors of heartbreak and life - what did you do to wash that man right outta your hair?.. :)
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I'm Gonna Paint That Man Right Outta My Hair.....
89 replies
CogitoErgoSometimes · 09/03/2014 10:35
OP posts:
Dahlen ·
09/03/2014 10:45
In all cases - found new digs altogether and redecorated those! 
I've also treated myself to things I put off doing when in those relationships. My divorce present was getting my motorbike licence, for example. Leaving my DC's father resulted in taking up a rather unusual hobby.
CurtWild ·
09/03/2014 11:13
Re-decorated the house I got for me and DC, all times of day and night, mostly when they were napping or in bed but did let DD1 (3) join in. Spent the last couple of weeks up to my eyes in emulsion, tears, wallpaper paste, ice cream and more tears. But damn was it theraputic. This is our home, my sanctuary from all the shit, and when stbxh walks out of the door after visiting our DC I can lock it after him. I may be sad but I'm stronger by the day 
handfulofcottonbuds ·
09/03/2014 11:20
I painted too! My stbxh used gloss paint that always went yellow so I bought a bright satin white
I also changed all the photos and created a tasteful collection of black and white photos of my family up the stairs, makes me smile every time.
Oh, and I got a fringe cut - cheaper than botox and acts as a handy 'mask' too.
CurtWild ·
09/03/2014 11:25
Handful ..I just got a fringe cut too..less drastic than chopping the whole lot off which was my original plan! 
and 
to all the lovely ladies of MN who have shown me I am so not alone in all this!
Diagonally ·
09/03/2014 12:12
When I bought my new place I paid someone to come in and do the glossing. All doors, skirtings, doorframes, banisters etc done in 3 days. I did the emulsioning myself.
When I lived with ex we weren't "allowed" to pay anyone to do jobs around the house (even though we were both earning and could easily afford it).
He would frequently say he would never pay anyone to do something he could do himself but then refuse to do it because he did xyz to his house when he was married (to his exW) and she shafted him when they divorced, and he lost everything.
End result - living in a half finished house and lots of arguments.
Well he's twice divorced now and I couldn't care less if his house is freshly painted or a dump.
Mine is lovely
scornedwoman67 ·
09/03/2014 12:30
I got my teeth veneered and he paid for it. He still doesn't know. Made up for the thousands he spent on his grubby affair. And they beam at me every day
Ladyflower ·
09/03/2014 15:37
I bought some very expensive john lewis pillows, duvet and Egyptian cotton bed linen. Made the bed up and climbed in for a blissful weekend!
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