Today is the day I am going to stick to a decision about my marriage. My husband had an affair that lasted nine months, he fell in love with her. I threw him out when I found out, took him back, threw him out again and then took him back again. And now I've thrown him out again last week. I know I know....
the affair ended 9 months ago but I am struggling to see a light at the end of the tunnel where it doesn't take over my thoughts. It would have been so much easier if it had been a meaningless fling. Added on to that all his family knew about it and his sister even let them sleep together at her house.
I have always had problems with his family interfering and causing trouble. In fact it got so bad all communication with his family and myself has been cut off. Permanently. I will never speak to them again. Ive even had his sister physically attack me. And no he didn't fall out with her, in fact he is round there now. They just seem so intent on involving themselves with my marriage and causing as much trouble as they can. It causes no end of arguments.
He also has addiction problems with alcohol.
We have had a lot of problems together over the past 16 years but always had fidelity to hold on to which kept me with him and trying to build a good marriage. Now that's gone I'm not sure what I can hold on to on the dark days when I am full of sadness, anger and hurt.
If we add that on to the infidelity is it actually worth staying with this man. Are there too many issues and problems to try and work through. I cant keep putting myself and the kids through the upheaval of the splitting up all the time. Its time for all or nothing.
Should I just cut my losses and give up?????
Any advice will be gratefully welcomed
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mumtopremie · 09/03/2014 09:10
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