DW and I have very mismatched sex drives, mainly due to health issues and tiny children running us both ragged.
DW has never had the highest sex drive, but we did used to have some fun at least once a week, and I've always been like a 17year old on heat. Once we'd settled in to our marriage and the sex "schedule" became established I was happy. I love DW very much and would much rather have her as part of my life than have sex two or three times a day.
Since we had DC our sex life has become none existent. I gave DW plenty of space after DC before trying anything more than a kiss and cuddle as we we're both more interested in sleep than anything else. After we'd done the first time post DC I let her initiate the next time, It was approx 2 months later, after that I tried to initiate after about a month and got rejected. I tried again about a week later, rejected. This went on for a few weeks before she stated something like "just stop pawing at me".
At this point I decided to let the sex be initiated by her everytime. We now have settled in to a routine of once every... well I don't know, it's been once this year.
Anyway, that's the back story, on with the subject.
Having a ridiculously high sex drive I find myself "needing" to orgasm at least every other day but I don't like to masturbate
It's not that I don't enjoy masturbation, it's that it doesn't feel right that I should be having sexual pleasure behind my DW's back.
I don't use porn for masturbation as I have a very good imagination and most of my masturbatory fantasies involve DW but it still almost feels unfair that I'm having sexual gratification and not being able to give her the same pleasure.
I'm not sure what I'm looking for in the way of answers. I suppose I want women with low sex drives to tell me that they love, or would love, the fact that their partners take care of their own needs.
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amievil · 08/03/2014 13:57
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