H and I are separating. He decided he didn't love me anymore and had an affair. He is in love with OW, though they are not moving in together and he is staying with a friend until he gets his own place this weekend.
He comes round a lot to help with the DDs. Gets them ready for nursery so I can get to work on time, picks them up from nursery so I don't have to leave early and sometimes stays to help with bath and bed.
I am being cool with him around the DDs, but I am finding it hard not to be much more friendly. I have to stop myself telling him about my day or recounting a funny thing that happened with the DDs.
At the same time I can't decide whether I want him to keep coming round as it makes my life much easier or stick to a more formal arrangement once he has his own place.
I don't know if I want him to realise what a mistake he has made or if I secretly hope he might want to get back together if I am nice to him or if I want to punish him by being not so nice.
It's driving me a bit crazy. I feel like I should be angry with him and trying to make his life difficult but it doesn't come naturally to me.
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I don't know how to act/feel around H
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TickledOnion · 06/03/2014 22:22
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