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I know it is none of my business and I would never say it, but its upsetting me.

(51 Posts)
iknowishouldbuttoutbut Thu 06-Mar-14 16:31:09

I am fully aware that this is none of my business and so obviously I would never dream of saying this to anyone, so I have just come here to vent.

My brother and his wife separated in December (she found he had been facebook messaging some random woman, he has said that nothing ever physically happened and she has accepted that.

Initially she threw him out, but then had him back two weeks later.

Since this whole thing happened she has been referring to herself by her maiden name. He has also bought new furniture for the house, replaced pretty much everything (complete with her photographing all the new stuff and putting it on facebook with "look at all my new furniture, cant believe I have just spent almost 10k.......", they have been on two five star luxury weekends away, and he has also bought numerous other 'gifts'.

She is very immature and lives her life through Facebook, seriously. She believes she is 'making a point' by excluding him from every activity she posts about that they have been on and missing him from photographs etc etc.

Now, I get that he fucked up, he fucked up royally and so part of me thinks yes he deserves to be punished (or whatever the word is), but FFS I just want to scream at him to STOP THROWING MONEY AT THE PROBLEM, surely, by now, you need to decide if you are going to make it work (in which case you need to draw a line under it and the pettiness needs to stop), or you need to just draw a line under the whole thing and separate and try and move on with your life, but this atmosphere of prolonged childishness is not good for you or your 3 year old son, and to be perfectly honest I think all the spending is massively taking the piss.

Right, am ready to be told I am a cow now.

CookieDoughKid Thu 06-Mar-14 22:30:26

How not his. Bad typo.

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