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worrying over nothing ? date doubts

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jesy Thu 06-Mar-14 09:31:42

Been on 2 dates with I'll call him IT man get on good he asked me over either Tuesday or Thursday this week but I said it was a bit soon, he fine with that said we'd do something on Sunday.
Last night usual flirty texts this morning I just had a text saying good morning and have a good day it felt a bit of a brush off.
I'm probably over thinking this
He is busy at work and does a lot of stuff outside work to so could be tired I guess .
Do I leave it till tonight and ask if he want to see me on Sunday?
Deep Down I don't think I'm his type seen a picture of his ex , but like some one said men are visual and he knew what I looked like before we met.

Trouble is I like this bloke I don't want to scare him off by comming on to strong.

Wuxiapian Thu 06-Mar-14 09:34:58

I think you're over-thinking it.

You're obviously on his mind or he wouldn't have sent you a text this morning at all.

Just reply thanking him and for him to have a great day, too. Keep things chilled!

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 06-Mar-14 09:35:20

For goodness sake, where's your self-confidence? You are massively overthinking this because, for some bizarre reason, you don't think you're worthy of his attention. Does he want to see you on Sunday? ... Bugger what he thinks. If you want to see him on Sunday send him a text saying 'do you fancy meeting up?'. If you don't want to bother, don't bother. He's not the boss of you.

jesy Thu 06-Mar-14 09:46:42

I do want to see him again . I even said I'd go to him as I don't want to seem like I'm not making an effort.
I don't have a lot of confidence , I've spent last 18 months being rejected not just by men by work and even by friends.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 06-Mar-14 10:21:52

So tell him you'd like to see him on Sunday. If you lack confidence you have to use dating as a way to get it back by taking control more, deciding what you want, and not sitting home worrying how thin and lovely their last partners were. If you can't do that then you shouldn't really be dating because you'll end up a nasty cycle of self-doubt, man-pleasing and making yourself vulnerable to poor treatment.

WhateverTrevor83 Thu 06-Mar-14 10:23:58

If there's only been two dates he's probably just trying to play it cool if you thought that seeing each other was too soon... and that's fair enough.

Don't be hard on yourself. And enjoy Sunday! thanks

jesy Thu 06-Mar-14 10:50:39

I just sent a casual text saying we could go for drinks on Sunday if you wanted to
I cab get a lift back so both can have a pint !!!

jesy Thu 06-Mar-14 11:47:46

Not heard back but guess need to wait .
I know he read it tho lol
I'm sure dating meant to be easier as you older lol

kentishgirl Thu 06-Mar-14 14:08:18

Sounds like a good text, wait and see.

My advice is not to text during work hours unless it's unavoidable, if you are likely to get stressed about no answer for a long time. Not everyone is able to, or wants to, spend time texting during their work.

jesy Thu 06-Mar-14 17:38:53

He said he'd love to do something on Sunday so looks like I have a date lol

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