Bit of a back story: basically this colleague of mine is leaving her job soon and everyone was invited to her 'do' except me. Fine. We have a complicated history, and perhaps she now dislikes me so much she asked the person organising to leave me out. That I would understand, and she's well within her rights, etc.
I only found out weeks after the event, at any rate, when she emailed everyone including me, to say thanks. I responded saying 'oh, sorry i didn't even know this had happened' & she sort of apologised saying she'd assumed everyone had been invited; we must meet up for coffee without the dcs etc... She also said she hoped I'd still bring my dcs to her dc's party. Basically this was something I'd RSVPd to before I found out out 'do-gate', so I'd sort of committed myself & the kids.
Of course now I really don't feel like going, and my gut instinct tells me not to bother, that this is just about me having lots of kids and making up numbers; they don't even know her kid that well, I think they've maybe met each other twice. And as for coffee, well, why would either of us want to bother?
To make things even more complicated, and give a bit more back story, I used to have a bit of a crush on her (I'm bi), although that's pretty much dissipated now, but it was a small contributing factor in the recent breakdown of my relationship with dp. She knew about it, and sort of exploited it; making arrangements to meet me then not turning up, that sort of thing. Since then things have been awkward, to say the least. She doesn't know about my relationship ending. Don't know how relevant that last bit is, but thought I'd throw it in anyway.
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Feel like my kids have been invited just to makee up numbers. complicated.
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ThePowerOfNo · 03/03/2014 10:58
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