Hi, have name changed as I will probably end of giving quite a bit away on this one! Have had a rotten start to 2014, broken ankle, virus, money and work stress, DH working long hours. March was my 'new start'. DH's job is in media so he was offered a trip to international news story and I asked him not to go (have never asked before) as I am so exhausted and need to get back on track.
So he went.
Have 2 young DCs, family not nearby, have childcare on work days but it's more that he chose work over me. I think it has brought up a lot of resentment I didn't even know was there. Pre DC I earned significantly more and after mat leave went part time so took big pay cut and have never recovered career wise. Always leaving work/meetings early for childcare, always the one rushing home when a DC is ill, always just bloody there. I don't ever remember discussing this or making any joint decisions that this would be how it would work.
I also do all the financial management, holiday planning, DC 'admin', doctors appointments, everything.
This trip feels like the last straw for me. I don't know what to do when he comes home but I do know that I don't want a marriage like this any more. He knows the last couple of months have really put a strain on me and on mental health as well as physical health but that is obv unimportant.
Been thinking about how we would manage living in same house but separate lives - can't afford to live apart in London and both of our jobs and school here. Oh for fuck sake.
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Quick perspective on this - DH chose work first
tiredandemotionless · 02/03/2014 20:19
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