stepfamily stories...

[lunatuna]

I'm dating a lovely guy, been seeing him for 6 months, all wonderful. Turns out we both want the same things in the future: marriage, living together, happy ever after...

We both have kids from our 1st marriages, mine live with me, his stay over twice weekly (as do mine with their dad).

Not rushing into anything, early days, and wouldn't plan to move in with him for a good couple of years, if I even want to... but just trying to get my head around a future life together...

So has anyone got any stories or advice on moving in with someone with kids, with your own kids? It all seems a bit alien and complicated to me. Almost impossible to imagine. I've got no experience of step families, don't really know any very well.

Starting to wonder if it would be more realistic to plan on living apart til kids are grown, though that would be years and years! Has anyone done this? Can a relationship survive so long without being live-in?

[TalisaMaegyr]

luna there is an excellent board for this if you'd like to come on over Nice bunch.

here

[JackyDanny]

Take it a day at a time!
When the time is right you will move together or apart.
It can work, if everyone is adjusted and knows where they stand....try having holidays etc. together first.
I have heard that it can be more successful as two separate families living together, rather than one family umbrella, so each parent disciplines only their children...it is early days though and more will be revealed!

[louby44]

Make sure you are 100% certain about him as a father/role model towards your kids.

It didn't work for us! It does for many, but isn't easy. I wouldn't do it again.