I don't know why I put up with it, maybe I am worried I'll never meet anyone better? I'm 30 and feel almost too old to start again (stupid I know).
We rent and I'd have to leave as he's previously refused to.
When he's nice we get on great, although he's quite anti-social and this has been an issue for me.. he's secretive and jealous.
I can't deal with living like this and not having an adult conversation about things. It just turns into him going on about me and not discussing the real issues.
He lied tonight about where he was, he text to say he was leaving somewhere (5-10 mins drive), He got home 40 mins later, I asked what happened, he said he stayed to look at something, sorry. So I said, well I was worried, you could have let me know, he said he was very sorry.
The thing is, I was worried, so I tried to call him, twice. 10 mins apart and phone was engaged.. fairly sure he would be on the phone to his mum, he's secretive about it for some odd reason. But he didn't say anything.
When I told him I tried to call and it was engaged, he said oh yes I rang mum quickly when I was at the garage filling up. Garage is round the corner, he never rings her from home.
He went for a shower, I check his call log.
There was no way he had time to look at what he said had caused the delay, and no way he'd have time to fill up. So he's lied.
I confronted him, he's said I shouldn't have looked (maybe so!), but I don't trust him anymore and this isn't the first time he's lied about his mum (wtf?), so what else has he lied about?
He says he didn't lie at all and I'm being stupid, he can do what he likes, I can't tell him what to do, who to see etc etc..
He doesn't get it. I am in no way controlling, always have encouraged a good relationship with his mum, his friend. Whereas he has always tried to control me.
There is no reason for him to lie to me, none at all, but he will say it's because I wouldn't have liked it, despite me never having any issues with his mum, or any of the other shit he throws at me.
God, I'm boring myself writing it all down. Sorry. I'm just sick of it and have an awful feeling in my stomach that there is a lot more I don't know about.