She has bipolar, NPD & is an alcoholic. She has sole custody of her 2 DC (?)
I have been trying to support her, both practically and emotionally for almost a year no and she is not getting any better. She has stretches of sobriety during which she can be ok (but always unstable & ready to 'flip') but then she will go into a manic episode, drink and things will happen. Dreadful, crazy things. Then I will help clear up the fallout & life begins again with her being the victim and her children having witnessed most of the horror of it.
Social services did act when she got fired from her job for drinking and odd/paranoid behaviour and gave her (abusive) ex's family custody until she became better. There was a plan put into place for when I was worried about her behaviour/if she had been taking drugs or drinking and they've since taken her off her plan & don't even check on her any more.
Last week she turned on me after I asked her about her drinking, behaviour etc. She was violent and threatening to me. Telling the DC that I was going to get them put into care and other disgusting things.
I have seen this side of her many, many time but never directed at me & I was frightened. Later she took to vile, threatening and abusive text messages - then facebook. I hardly slept that night.
The problem is that there is a 'procedure' I should follow to make sure the children aren't there while she needs time to get better. I did not get that support. I felt like it was me on my own, against her & her family and I was forced to leave the house while the children were there and she was clearly on drugs (and drunk?) and going through a nasty and severe manic episode. Her parents said they were going round but I later found out they were lying & her ex was too busy to collect his children. I'm disgusted but if something happens to her or her children I'll feel terrible.
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