Feeling a bit upset and my confidence has been knocked.
Someone I considered to be a friend suddenly stopped responding to my phone calls/texts and for no apparent reason (none that I can fathom anyway).
We have known each other for years - met through a toddler group along with some other mums and for years we have kept in touch meeting with the children from time to time. Out of all the women in this group I thought I got on with this woman the most. We would meet up for coffee from time to time and both of us went through some traumatic life experiences and it appeared we were able to support each other. Of course she had others who supported her too.
However, out of the blue she stopped responding to my text messages/phone calls and I really can not work out why. I put it down to her trying to deal with her issues in her own way and being busy at work etc. Then when my dd was born there was no congratulation message or card etc in fact she did not bother to contact me at all in the last few months of my pregnancy to find out how I was getting on but once again I put it down to her issues which were pretty serious - life threatening illness, death in the family etc. Today during one of our group meet ups I discover that she is getting married at Easter and this is the very first I have heard of it.
There is one other woman in the group who I am also friendly with and she didn't mention the wedding either when we last met (I moved a few miles away and so don't see these mums at the school gates etc). I hate to ask if everyone else is invited as I feel totally left out.
We used to share so much of what we were going through, I am saddened and at a loss to know what went wrong. I wish I could say something discouraging about this woman but I really genuinely liked her and thought the feeling was mutual but obviously it was not or that we fell out over something in particular but I cannot pinpoint anything. I would have loved to have continued are friendship - meeting up every month or so for a coffee and a chat but feel as if she has treated me badly and don't feel able to ask her what went wrong. I need to move on but feel really saddened and feeling that I am a really bad judge of character. I am left feeling very hurt and my confidence has been knocked with me reflecting in on myself that I have done something wrong.
Compounded with this I recently fell out with a woman in the village a whole new story but this woman really wasn't pleasant and appears to have mental health issues and I feel that this wasn't a friendship so nothing lost but once again questioning is it me.
Having said this I do have 3 or 4 good friends - trying to convince myself that I can and do get on with people
Anyone else been in a similar situation?
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Someone I thought was a friend stopped contacting me
monkeytree · 24/02/2014 18:02
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