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Potential New Man - with very close friendship with ex - would you ?

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waitingformychance Mon 24-Feb-14 11:15:20

I've just recently met through friends a nice guy, my only concern is he has a very close friendship still with his ex - I realise this isn't out of the norm, I still talk to an old ex of mine & we still get on okay.

I couple of months ago I left a relationship with someone who treated me pretty crap, he used to say mentally abusive stuff, I took it for 3 yrs but I have finally left.

I just wanted time on my own to get my head clear and enjoy just being me again! but this guy has came along and everyone is telling me how lovely he is and dont pass up a opportunity to be happy!

Thing is he has a very close friendship with his ex - who I met with him once when they were together at a wedding.

He helps her out a lot , picking her up from nights out when her new boyfriend is at work and she cant get home, taking her places etc. I only know this because he's text me at 3 in the morning saying he's gone to pick her up as shes called him .

I dont think there is anything wrong with this situation - as long as I dont get too attached to him maybe?

She is getting married soon and he's said he needs a date for this wedding but I'm not convinced thats a situation I want to be in.

Am I being selfish/insecure? Im worried about putting myself in a situation where I'm feeling crap again.

I have asked about there relationship, he said there like brother & sister and he'd do anything for her, still enjoys spending time with her etc, just didn't work out as they wanted different things, ie kids and no kids !

Any advice would be appreciated , smile

LondonForTheWeekend Mon 24-Feb-14 11:22:07

Doesn't sound like the right guy for you. Sorry. It is OK to walk away from something which you know in advance would bother you.

pinkfluffypoodleface Mon 24-Feb-14 11:23:30

I think the ex thing is a bit of a red herring chance

*I just wanted time on my own to get my head clear and enjoy just being me again! but this guy has came along and everyone is telling me how lovely he is and dont pass up a opportunity to be happy!
*

This is what's concerning me. Why are you considering a relationship because everyone else is telling you to? If you want time to yourself then take it, he's not coming across as a perfect man tbh smile

This level of attachment to an ex would worry me, as would the importance of him having a date at her wedding. Why is he going to her wedding?

Steer well clear & get the time to yourself you wanted, this isn't the last man who will ever show an interest in you. There will be others.

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