I'm a single parent to a 4 year old.
Have had a boyfriend for a year. He is awesome...and I love him.
Currently we spend every weekend together, and normally a night in the week.
Gradually, he has spoke about long term stuff. Moving in together, marriage, kids etc.
But we know we have to do it slowly so as not to unsettle DD.
I honestly have no complaints about him. No body has ever been so nice, and thoughtful to me, and I have honestly never cared for someone's well being as I do for him.
But why can't I shake off the feeling it's all going to go wrong?
He is mid 20s, no kids, good career, etc.
He doesn't need to be with me. He could start his own life and family without someone with baggage.
How can this guy truly love someone elses child, live with them, contribute financially to that household, and everything else....I'm not sure I could??
And this is what he will have to do if he wants to be with me....why go through all that effort?
I know I'm rambling.....but I just don't want to get in neck deep, and then he realises he's made a big mistake.
Any advice, experience, tellings to get a grip......all welcome.
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Single parents that now have new partners...talk to me please, before I self sabotage this relationship!
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DoodleBugBug · 23/02/2014 22:20
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