Okay, I am posting this in relationships as I respect the advice and opinions from a number of posters on here, however I may move to feminism if people think it is more appropriate.
Anyway leading on from some other threads from posters who are understandably upset that their DH/DP had a lapdance in a strip club, there have been lots of discussion around the objectification of women. Putting aside personal relationship boundaries and the massive problems with people trafficking and other things within the sex industry, I want to ask a questions around the objectification discussion.
Now my exH (lovely guy, we split up under v amicable circumstances and not related to this incident) went on a stag do and had a private dance. I wasn't at all bothered (because I was bored of him and didn't care what he did, but that is another story), and as we were good friends we chatted about how his night went. Anyway he seemed more excited about the fact that he chatted to the stripper for ages and she told him all about how she was doing a degree and had just come back from 18 months travelling in Australia and NZ and was saving to go again (hence the job). He told me all about her (i.e. the travelling and stuff), and it was relevant as we were planning to take a year out to go to Australia. Anyway he said whilst they were talking she kept asking if he was ready to go upstairs (of course she did, she is on commission!). Anyway so after a bit he went and had a dance then came back and chatted a bit more. Apparently the club was dead and only there party was in there (so ratio of 5 men to about 20 women!).
So my question is, does that mean he objectified women? I completely understand the argument about it, but lets say his story is true. He clearly was really interested in her as a person and he didn't even tell me how big her boobs were. He did tell me her name though! We had a very open sort of relationship so he would have/could have said that she was really hot and she had the best tits ever if he wanted, he knew I wouldn't been upset.
Thoughts please???
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Strip Clubs and Objectification
Thingsthatmakeyougohmmmm · 23/02/2014 20:18
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