I'm probably BU but I got a text from a Dsis yesterday to say my DGM is in hospital and unlikely to survive. I'm NC from my dad so I couldn't ask him for info so I asked my DBro if he wanted to come and visit her today.
I found out that all my siblings knew lots about it as they'd all been together discussing it. They'd decided not to visit as a) she wouldn't recognise them b) they wanted to remember her from when she was well. I replied saying I'd probably visit anyway (it's 2 hours away) and he replied asking me to give her their love and a kiss from them.
I'm upset because of all the DGC, I'm the closest to her and feel annoyed that bar one sis (who wasn't part of the 'family' discussion) no one thought to fill me in on what was happening. It all stems from the fact that I'm excluded from many family things as I'm NC with my dad and no one supports me with this. I think my Dsis texted me because she knew no one else would think to tell me. (I've been NC with her for 1.5 years so it's nice that she did this)
I'm also irritated that they can't be bothered to visit her yet expect me to pass on their love etc.
Obviously I'm really upset about my DGM which means my emotions are high and maybe I'm not being rational. I used to spend a lot of time with my DGM as a child and she bought me my first bra. I'd bought DD's the other day and was remembering my trip to the shops with my DGM to buy mine.
I've tried to express this to DH but he just gets annoyed with how my family treat me so I think his views are skewed too. I'm just venting really and then someone can tell me IABU and that my family are lovely really.
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Upset about DGM being in hospital and my family
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chicaguapa · 23/02/2014 10:04
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