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Totally broken & not worth saving

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Noideawhatsoever Fri 21-Feb-14 19:21:19

So- despite spending the last 3 years trying to make my 13 year marriage work, I realise I just can't go on.

My DH is emotionally cruel and unavailable. I try & try to talk to him about how lonely I feel in our marriage. He actually ridicules me.
He just said some very cruel things to me & then completely denied it 5 minutes later saying I'm mental.

I can't deal with this anymore but I am completely overwhelmed about what to do?

We're currently living in a European country (not Uk), so me leaving means I will have to take my dc out of school - find a new school - find a job etc

I don't even have my own bank account.

What do I need to get copies of?
What documents should I ask for?

Any advice would be very much appreciated.

Sortyourmakeupout Fri 21-Feb-14 19:32:53

Your post sounds sounds so sad op.

You need to get copies of birth certs, bank details, pension, and put them in a safe place.

I always had a few pennies put aside so I could stay in a cheap hotel for a couple of nights. I always made sure I could leave. My local hotel held an account for me and I was able to credit it weekly.

You need to make an appointment to see a solicitor re leaving the country with children and where you stand financially.

I'm sorry you are in this situation. In these early days it feels like it could choke you, but as you start to sort through things and take each step things will get better.

Noideawhatsoever Fri 21-Feb-14 19:37:46

Thanks for your reply thanks

I do feel very sad.

I still love my DH but I just can't accept that this is my lot in life.

I know I deserve better and I'm tired of the drama & crying in front of my dc.

I will start to try and glean as much info as possible before my DH realises I'm serious.

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