He will be here in a couple of hours, he thinks to start over and work things out. DC are here, they will be thrilled to see him. He promised them the world and gave nothing but lies. I rang the police this morning to ask for their help, they said they'd put me through to someone who dealt with him a few days ago, all I got was an answer machine. I left a message begging him to ring me asap. I hope he doesn't ring when DP arrives. I don't know what to say to DP. I don't know how to persuade him to leave without a fuss. I am worried the DC will get upset if he packs so maybe I should make tea and act like nothing has happened until they are sleeping then ask him to leave. But where will he go? He has no money or family locally.
You sound frightened. Please contact the police again and keep calling until someone picks up. Failing that, try Womens Aid 0808 2000 247. Do you have anyone that could come and be with you? Family? Friend?
Get the DC out, possibly even yourself and if he wants to talk you can meet elsewhere, preferably public and with someone you know. Preferably close to the police station. Like across the road, if possible.
you don't have to talk to him if you don't want to, and you can lock the doors and not let him in if you want. Short term solution I know. Can you get a friend to come over? I would also call the police back and speak to WA too. So sorry you are frightened - is awful.
Lostmum can you give us a few details? Are you separated? Were you living together? Do you have children together?
It's difficult to offer anything that might be helpful, without knowing basic facts, but you must never feel obliged to see him or let him in to your home. You can just say, "no, that doesn't work for me" or "no".
Living together for 6 months. We had a fight. He said nasty stuff to my DC and I flipped ran upstairs and hit him and pushed him, shouting how dare he upset DC. He hit me back, around the head, knocked me over. It has never happened before.