I have just checked into a hotel by myself because of threat from h following discussion about separating.
After lots of tears and talk he grabbed me by the front of my clothes, pushed me against the wall and told me to get out he them calmed down briefly and asked what we should do I said I thought it was over and that I would sleep in the spare room. He followed me upstairs and tried to manhandle me back down and I stood my ground, he moved away briefly and then punched at my face not to hit me but as a threat. Again he walked away and came back and said that. I should be very afraid about staying in the house as I might not make it through the night . He let me pack my bags and as I stood by the door told me I was making a really big mistake. I have done the right thing but what happens with dc surely I can't lose them if I leave under these circumstances?
Thank you everyone who took the trouble to reply. I managed to get some sleep. Will contact WA etc this morning for advice. Feel a bit sick really been together for 25 years . Been awful lately he has been physically intimidating before such as blocking doorways and not allowing me to leave the room however he had always controlled himself in that he has never done anything which would leave evidence. He is a clever and well educated man who will make a very good case for himself and try his best to make me appear incompetent. Our housing situation is also unusual in that the property is owned by his brother. We own a couple of flats which are let but, are unsuitable in terms of size and location. I want to text mil to check kids are ok but am worried it will inflame the situation.
Hi Jelly Just here for moral support. Our local police station has a 'family justice unit' that deal with domestic violence, injunctions etc. The police will guide you. I agree with the others who say you need to report him and get the children away. I would suggest you stay in the house with the children and ask him to move out. It is not unreasonable. I am sure the police will go with you if you are worried about violence. He can go to his mothers. Be strong
Am at the police station now waiting to see someone. Reported on 101 earlier. Mil lives with us so, he can't go to hers ifyswim. My family are not local. Once I have spoken to the police I will be better placed to deal with this I hope. Have spoken to h on phone very apologetic as always. Trying to keep strong.
Appalling behaviour, I hate men who intimidate women, love some to tower over them and scare them. Their doing it as it's the only thing left they can do to control you or the situation, it's disgusting but desperate.