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dont know what to do :(

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aelita92 Thu 20-Feb-14 22:49:16

im new to this website, but I was wandering if anyone had some advice for me....I found out my partner was asking another girl for dirty pictures about a year ago, the only reason I found out about this was because I saw the messages to her and I didnt find out until I was 3 months pregnant with his baby, I suffer with bipolar and bpd so I found this really difficult to come to terms with as I havr huge confidence and trust issues anyway and I thought my partner was different and would never do this to me so it was a HUGE shock, I am still with him now and our baby is 2 months old but im still realoy struggling and am wandering whether I can carry on this relationship, I already have a child from a previous relationship and she is 3, he tried saying he didnt tell me because he didnt want to lose me, but the thinh is he took me for dinner the same night as he messaged this girl and declared his love for me :s I just dont understand how someone could do that. I have tried to stick it out and forgive him but I really dont know if I can but the last thing I want is to ruin our familyany advice is much appreciated

KatieZA23 Thu 20-Feb-14 22:52:54

Awww, so sorry to hear that. Has there been any more contact with this woman since the initial photos a year ago?

aelita92 Thu 20-Feb-14 22:54:56

Apparently not but he kept the messages from me until I found them so now I wander if there is anything else I don't know about, he lies about stuff a bit so its hard to trust what he says :/

LisaAYarrow Thu 20-Feb-14 23:00:01

You are number one here - work out what would honestly make you more miserable: leaving him, or forgiving him and staying with him? Your baby will be happy if the parents are happy, whether together or apart. Big hugs smile

scornedwoman67 Thu 20-Feb-14 23:03:46

Sorry op. Big hug from me too. I agree - would you be happier not having to worry about this all the time? You deserve to feel loved. If he doesn't make you happy, make a new life for yourself and your family. x

EatShitDerek Thu 20-Feb-14 23:05:24

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

aelita92 Thu 20-Feb-14 23:15:31

Thank you all so much, all I want is for my children to be happy and just recently I really haven't been myself, I struggle with day to day emotions this is the last thing I need ; (

you are all so lovely smile

LadyBeagleEyes Thu 20-Feb-14 23:30:32

Yeah right.

aelita92 Fri 21-Feb-14 03:26:52


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