Firstly, apologise if I have posted this on the incorrect thread, there is so many and not sure where this slots in!
I'm after some opinions.
My son's father and I broke up at the beginning of this year due to him physically hurting us. He has tried many times in asking for us to get back together, then says he understands we won't, then tries again and then says my answer of no is a shock and surprise, etc, etc. Only recently on another attempt of saying he doesn't know where we stand and whether we will get back together and being told no he has turned very nasty. More so as he has to move back to his mum's as he needs to give his place up at the end of the month, which in his opinion is not good for a middle aged man and he refuses to rent elsewhere as he doesn't see why he should spend the money. He also brags about him buying a brand new car and spending thousands on himself but refuses to pay maintenance, so have had to get CSA involved which made him very angry.
Anyway, I am seeing a solicitor regarding my son soon but I am wondering about my to be child as I am pregnant with our child number 2 (he did know I was pregnant when he physically hurt us too but went to the doctors and baby was ok). In some of his correspondance, apart from childish nastiness he has said that as he has parental responsibility I can not do anything with my children, including the unborn child without his permission, including choosing schools, religion, medical treatment or take them on holiday which he has implied whatever I decide he will refuse/deny just to be stubborn and awkward. He also says he will visit them, take them out or take them away for periods of time whenever he sees fit despite us agreeing regular visits in the past and I can't do anything about it.
Does he have this right to refuse my children any enjoyment in life and the best possible education/chances that I can provide? (We never lived together and he only visited at weekends and it was agreed my children will always live with me and he has not changed this stance yet!) Do I have to let him have unsupervised access as I do not trust he will not hurt them again or even bring them back?
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Does he have the right?
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jubr75 · 19/02/2014 09:30
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