I need a bit of advice about a new partner please. I met him 5 mths ago and we get on great. He seems to like me a lot and the feeling is mutual. We've taken it very very slowly so we're still at a fairly early stage, but we see each other once a week each weekend and usually do something fun. I love spending time with him.
The reason we're taking it slowly is because I only separated from my exh last July and I made it clear from the start that it was all very recent and I needed time to adjust. I'm wary that I've not really had any time completely on my own, but having spent the last 5 yrs in a very difficult marriage, it's lovely to spend time with someone who is kind, caring and very nice.
He seems to understand completely and has never put any pressure on me to 'move on'. He's perfectly happy to take things at my pace which suits me fine.
Anyway, the issue I have is my children. My dd is nearly 12 and ds 7. Dd in particular is close to her dad and both of them stay over at his once a week. Dd is very sensible and talks to me about a lot of things.
I'd like to introduce my new partner (not in person, but I'd like them to know he exists) but am wary about upsetting them. Is it ok to mention him just as a new friend for now?
He's only ever been to my house briefly when they weren't there, but I'd really like to see him a bit more which can only happen if and when I introduce him to the children. I don't think they're ready for that yet and I'm fine to keep it casual for a while longer, but I'd like to start 'sowing the seed' that he's in my life.
I really like him and I think this is the start of something serious, I just don't want to mess it up.
Any advice would be appreciated.
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RollerCola · 17/02/2014 12:37
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