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Tell me why being single is good

(16 Posts)
MamaPingu Sat 15-Feb-14 18:49:00

I need reminding that I'm going to have a lovely time being single.

DP recently admitted (after months of tears and begging as I could sense something was wrong) that he kissed someone when I was pregnant.

I keep getting down about it even though I know being single is going to do me and DS wonders in the long run!

Remind me why it can be good to be single? Even the little things!

brokenhearted55a Sat 15-Feb-14 18:50:12

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MamaPingu Sat 15-Feb-14 18:52:33

It was only a kiss (apparently) but it's the lies that have ruined it.
The amount of times he told me it was in my head because of pervious boyfriends cheating, and promised he'd never done anything.

I wouldn't trust a word that came out of his mouth again, plus he isn't a good partner overall if I'm honest sad

Lweji Sat 15-Feb-14 18:54:14

I can do what I want.

It is definitely better than to live with someone who disappoints you and you can't trust.

MadeMan Sat 15-Feb-14 18:55:18

Being Single

brokenhearted55a Sat 15-Feb-14 18:55:21

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MamaPingu Sat 15-Feb-14 19:01:51

I'm fed up now because I've always done EVERYTHING, you name it he does it.
Now he lives at home and does even less than before. My days off when he sees DS are for me to do housework hmm

I get screwed over, he doesn't even suffer. Just more work for me!

MamaPingu Sat 15-Feb-14 19:02:28

You name it I do it, sorry

TonyThePony Sat 15-Feb-14 19:03:19

*He isn't a good partner overall if I'm honest*; I think you just answered your own question. Better to be fully committed to yourself and your life as an individual than to somebody who doesn't deserve you.
Best of luck to you.

TonyThePony Sat 15-Feb-14 19:03:32

Oops, bold fail.

MamaPingu Sat 15-Feb-14 19:04:53

MadeMan - thanks for the link I will read it once DS is in bed!

MamaPingu Sat 15-Feb-14 19:05:56

Yeah you're right tony, answered it myself there didn't i?

I keep feeling ok about it then very fed up and down.
Still haven't told my family yet and it's been a few weeks don't want them to feel sorry for me or worry

NecklessMumster Sat 15-Feb-14 19:06:28

Because you can do what you want when you want, you become more yourself and find out what you like.You don't have to watch sodding football.

MomentForLife Sat 15-Feb-14 19:10:40

I find the longer I'm single, the higher my standards are so I will hopefully meet the right person for me one day. I'm happy and independant in my life and not desperate to be with someone for the sake of not being alone.

Spero Sat 15-Feb-14 19:15:02

Being single can be good, bad or indifferent. just as being in a couple can be amazing or truly fucking awful.

I think you are asking the wrong question. what is 'good' is being happy with yourself, whether you are single or in a relationship or anything else.

I don't think it is about elevating singleness or coupledom as a desirable state of being. If you aren't happy with yourself and who you are, it won't matter whether you find someone or not. You will still be unhappy.

So, being single could be really good if you take the chance to look after yourself, don't beat yourself up for being single and don't rush into another relationship.

SerenaBracken Sat 15-Feb-14 19:17:00

There's nothing particularly amazing about being single. I was for twelve years and I am now until I die.
What is worse and the loneliest place in the World, is to be in a bad partnership.

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