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Accidental Texts

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Kittenpaws123 Fri 14-Feb-14 14:56:31

I was having lunch with a friend earlier and she told me she found some texts on her partner�s phone that he assured her were �accidental�. I didn�t really say anything at the time, but I�m sure she could tell from my face that I wasn�t 100% sold.

Basically she was looking at his phone at pictures of their child when a text flashed up and took her to the messaging page. She then noticed some texts to a woman he used to work with (still works for same company). There was 3 texts all in one go, he addressed the first one �Hi Namethatsnothers� which wasn�t her name but was the name of a client and said something about arrangements for work. This woman then replied with an innocuous response, he replied, she replied again, he replied then she replied ����ve still not noticed you�ve sent this to the wrong person? Haha� and he replied �No�. She asked him about it and it he said it was a genuine mistake.

Maybe it was or maybe I�m just of a suspicious nature but it just seems odd. I don�t think I�ve sent an accidental text message since I was a teenager when it wasn�t reeeeally accidental. The name of the woman and the client couldn�t be more different (English name Vs Indian name, not even the same starting letter) and on smart phones these days, it would surely be impossible not to notice�especially after 3 messages? It would open in the same conversation as all previous conversations with that person?

Now I�m not going to say anymore to her about it, it�s her choice if she wants to believe it and maybe it is true. But it�s made me think�do people really accidently text people like that?

givemeaclue Fri 14-Feb-14 14:57:58


HyvaPaiva Fri 14-Feb-14 14:58:59


MmeMorrible Fri 14-Feb-14 15:02:36

Don't understand the problem here? Friends DH sent a series of innocuous texts to some woman about work who then said she 'wasn't the right person'.

What am I missing?

hamptoncourt Fri 14-Feb-14 15:03:01

She should LTB


Dahlen Fri 14-Feb-14 15:04:30

That sounds perfectly genuine to me. confused

Hiphopopotamus Fri 14-Feb-14 15:07:23

confused but it sound like an accidental conversation. Not sure what there is to be suspicious about?

sofluffyamgonnadie Fri 14-Feb-14 15:07:45

Yep! I did it yesterday, sent a text to my son that was meant for a female friend!!

Kittenpaws123 Fri 14-Feb-14 15:13:31

My suspicion is only raised with him as he was quite close to this woman at one point. I don't know, it just seems odd that he hasn't texts this woman for months then when he needs to text someone whose name couldn't be more different, he happens to click on the other woman's name and 'not realise' that it's this woman replying for three messages. It just seems really daft

Dahlen Fri 14-Feb-14 15:16:02

Well if there's history there that might put a different spin on things, but there's nothing in those messages that is inappropriate or even hinting at it.

If you send a text to the wrong person and the person you sent it to is someone you actually know, I would have thought it normal to have at least one extra message back. If your friend is worried, just get her to keep an eye out and see if there are any future messages between them.

GoldieBear Fri 14-Feb-14 15:20:39

My dm sent me a text the other day clearly meant for someone else as the message said she had a reprieve from me and the dc'sblush
From your post it doesn't sound like anything to be suspicious about

Kittenpaws123 Fri 14-Feb-14 15:25:59

I suppose...I hope you're all right. As I said, I'm not saying anything to her but it's someone he 'shouldn't' really be texting and hadn't since August

ScrambledSmegs Fri 14-Feb-14 15:27:14

I send texts to the wrong person from my smart phone all the time. It happens when I open up Messages and just start typing away without realising whose name is in the address line. Generally it's stuff like accidentally texting my friend when I want to send something to DH, but once I managed to send a rather saucy text to my hairdresser's landline blush.

Doesn't sound suspicious to me in the slightest.

Kittenpaws123 Fri 14-Feb-14 15:33:32

I suppose I don't really understand smartphones too well. ScrambledSmegs - how would someones name already be in the address line? Could that have happened if you hadn't sent a message to that person in 6 months?

MrsPixieMoo Fri 14-Feb-14 15:56:41

My DH accidentally texts the wrong person. Once he and I were meeting in a hotel having made separate journeys there and I was travelling with DD. He sent a text meant for me to his XGF who is married and lives in another country saying 'sweetheart I've just checked into room 213. Love you and can't wait to see you' and she sent back 'erm I think that wasn't meant for me'. So even the worst thing can be totally innocent. Her name is totally different to mine but starts with the same letter.

Joysmum Fri 14-Feb-14 16:19:51

I have sent a text to my friend telling her what I wanted to do to her. Luckily she realised that she doesn't have a cock so it wasnt for her blush grin

rookiemater Fri 14-Feb-14 16:23:51

Since I've got DH's old i-phone our contact lists seem to have merged and I am continually inviting one of his pals out for coffee or pilates as he is beside my bf's name.
Thankfully he has never responded grin.

firesidechat Fri 14-Feb-14 17:01:29

My daughter's always sending me accidental texts. It happens.

Kittenpaws123 Fri 14-Feb-14 17:26:58

I'm glad I posted, some of these stories are funny! It's making me feel a bit better

I think it's not helping that I don't trust this guy as far as I could throw him. Also, her name starts with an L and the one it was 'supposed' to be for starts with an S. I know he had a thing for this woman and my friend was under the impression that he'd deleted her number

pinkpaws Fri 14-Feb-14 18:40:11

I did it sent my sister a text telling her how rubbish her son was (MY nephew) at Trampolining competition he had taken part in . Which was ment for my friend . She still hasnt spoken to me my sister not my friend .I thought it was funny i did apologies she haS NO SENSE OF HUMOUR.

ScrambledSmegs Fri 14-Feb-14 19:10:03

Oh yes, there are a couple of reasons the wrong name would be in the address line. 1) that was the last person I texted or 2) I have fat fingers and the phone just autocorrected to something else.

If you don't trust him that's a different issue, though.

Kittenpaws123 Fri 14-Feb-14 19:50:36

Yes, I think my issue is stemming from that. Lisa and Sanjav aren't really names you'd get mixed up!

DustBunnyFarmer Sat 15-Feb-14 09:31:11

I was away once in a far flung city at a 2 day meeting. The meeting finished early on day 2 and I had about 3 hours to kill before heading to the airport. I texted DH from the city museum saying what an excellent wheeze it was to be sight-seeing and living it up on work time. Managed to pick the one message in my out box as a template that had him first, but 9 others as it had been a party invite. Two of the other recipients worked for my organisation!! blush

TinselTownley Sat 15-Feb-14 09:41:31

I think your friend needs to stop poking about in other people's phones and that - equally - you need to ask yourself why you're quite so bothered.

I don't see why the conversation went beyond:

Friend: "would you find this suspicious?"

You: "I'm not sure. I have my reservations but it's your relationship. I am here for you as a friend either way."

I have sent plenty of accidental texts and haven't realised until someone's replied. It's easily done, particularly if you're a frequent texter and in a hurry.

Sortyourmakeupout Sat 15-Feb-14 09:50:40

I sent a text to the wrong number once and ended up marrying him!

I once received a text message that was meant to an accident but e later admitted he was just testing the water.

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