How do you get a one sided relationship to improve and when do you decide that enough is enough and you have to walk away? Feel like I am the one doing all the giving in the relationship and receiving very little in return. I don't expect a lot but it would be nice if he made some effort, I do things for him because I like to and to help him out. Don't feel like I am asking for a lot, every time I speak to him about it though he just nods or says that he doesn't think he can change. I am being to needy?
Nodding, or saying that he doesn't think he can change, is not very promising. So he either doesn't care that much, or is confident that he can get away with giving little and maintaining the relationship. That either means you may as well move on, or you may as well tell him you want to end things as it will take a shock of that magnitude to make a difference, if anything will.
How long have you been in the relationship? Do you live together?
I've help him out a lot with some problems that he's had recently and his family have been very quick to point fingers at me and say things about me when they have done very little to actually help him, I wish that he was more supportive and would stand up for me. I have made effort recently with this and also it was his birthday recently and I planned stuff for him etc as a surprise but he never seems to do anything back. He didn't even get me a Christmas present this year.
OK, the letting his family have a go at you, and the not getting you a Christmas present - both of those are big letdowns. I would be seriously rethinking on that basis. It's not the materialistic side of present receiving that's a problem, it's that it indicates you are not worth the effort to him.
In my experience, when a man says they don't think they can change, they like themselves the way they are and really do not want to change. Believe him! You sound lovely; he does not. You get to decide, but I could not live with someone like this. What do you get out of the relationship?
On my hit list of people that make lousy partners 'liars' get top billing but 'selfish' is right up there as well. This person sounds very happy to let you do everything and give nothing back. Very selfish and exploitative. Don't waste any more time or emotion on him.
Lazy isn't good, he sounds like my now ex, too lazy to listen to your needs, wants, plans for the future etc....it won't get better, you'd be best to cut your losses esp as you haven't even been together that long.