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Licking fingers after being inside me...sorry for icky topic!

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Disconcerted · 13/02/2014 09:41

Really sorry for posting this, but it's bothering me.

Every time I have sex with my partner, he uses his fingers inside me, which is lovely and he takes it slowly, enjoys doing it, always does that before anything else, and so on.

But every time, he licks his fingers afterwards.

I ignored it for a long time but I have on occasion just said something like "oh, stop that" in a kind of lighthearted way, his response is always the same; "you're tasty".

It makes me feel like a KFC bargain bucket or something!

I mean, a quick google has proven that a lot of men do it, but it can't taste that good to want to lick your fingers afterwards, can it?!

I'm worried it's more like either a power trip sort of thing (although how it can be construed as that exactly, I don't know) or just a weird fetish.

What do you think? Do you get turned off by men doing this sort of thing or am I just a freak?

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boomoohoo · 13/02/2014 09:44

If you don't like it say it in a kind, assertive way.

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boomoohoo · 13/02/2014 09:45

Ps you're not a freak. We all like different things.

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 13/02/2014 09:46

what with all the flipping "share the details of your sex life" threads lately?

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NigellasDealer · 13/02/2014 09:47

fgs I for one just do not want to know about your sexlife - how gross.

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MimsyBorogroves · 13/02/2014 09:47

Buy him a calippo instead.

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 13/02/2014 09:50

oh I love Calippo lollies. Now I will think of this thread every time i see one.

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HerrenaHarridan · 13/02/2014 09:51

I don't see the problem tbh. Obviously if it makes you that uncomfortable you should ask him to stop but first have a good think about why it makes you so uncomfortable.

I think women taste utterly delicious and it's beautiful that he worships you in this way. Your cum beautiful and exciting to him.

You find your cum gross but in our society women are trained to think that anything that comes out of you 'down there' is disgusting and needs to be caught, hidden and disguised.

Have you ever read the vagina monologues by eve ensler, it might help you learn to love your vagina some.

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UriGeller · 13/02/2014 09:53

KFC bargain bucket?

You want to stuff some raw garlic up there, see how tasty he finds it then!

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bragmatic · 13/02/2014 10:04

I'm with Herrena. Though I've clearly not had the same experiences as her.

I think her opening para is spot on.

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Back2Basics · 13/02/2014 10:06

God I read these see life threads and I think I must be a right goer.

What really is the problem?

It's better if you touch yourself and then stick your fingers in his mouth LOL that is quite sexy.

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piratecat · 13/02/2014 10:12

just no, can't be arsed to read that title this morning.

it's all ok, if you don't mind it. really.

(goes back to humus and bread sticks snack)

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Lweji · 13/02/2014 10:13

Thanks for the title. You've just ruined lunch and dinner for me today. Grin

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Lweji · 13/02/2014 10:14

And can't be arsed to read the post.

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JeanSeberg · 13/02/2014 10:17

Give me strength.

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Tiredemma · 13/02/2014 10:18

You have just reminded me that the kids asked for Fish Fingers for tea tonight.

thanks

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gamerchick · 13/02/2014 10:24

That took a moment to register tiredmama.. I'm glad I'm alone in the house Grin

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Wuxiapian · 13/02/2014 10:26

LOL at KFC bargain bucket!

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gamerchick · 13/02/2014 10:26

OP as with everything to do with sex. If you don't like something your partner is doing then tell them to pack it in.

If they don't then they are a bellend.

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nessus · 13/02/2014 10:30

First post OP and you just couldn't resist hey...

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Xmusician · 13/02/2014 10:36

Blokes opinion.....(I ate my breakfast peach flavour yoghurt this morning remembering that I love the taste of my wife). If it worries you talk to him and either ask him to stop or seek reassurance that he does it because it turns him on. Sometimes I am amazed at the threads here!

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WhateverTrevor83 · 13/02/2014 10:41

Why would someone open a thread obviously about sex and then whinge about it being about sex! So many prudes who are too nosy to not have a read! Haha.

Peach yoghurt comment is much more creepy (haha) that what your bloke is doing OP - maybe just make a joke about it and say it makes you feel a bit weird. See what he has to say.

Have you tried licking his fingers?! Go for it! x

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GinUtero · 13/02/2014 11:00

I don't see anything gross or abnormal about it - presumably he puts his tongue down there, so what's so different about licking his fingers?

However, if you don't find it a turn on, make that clear to him, not us!

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Disconcerted · 13/02/2014 11:00

I think it's his response that is the problem..the it's tasty comment. Just a bit too flippant for my liking.

Thing is, he's quite a reserved bloke, I'm quite open and I do do some if the things mentioned in previous posts, but he's very much a same few positions, never even tried being tied up or blindfolded...it's just strange that this, whilst not a really out there thing, he treats in such a relaxed and blasé way. "It's just tasty". Just seemed strange to me.

And the reason I used that title was precisely so those that didn't want to read, wouldn't. No other way I could write it really, was there?

I'm not a new poster, I've name changed.

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Disconcerted · 13/02/2014 11:00

I have told him, as I said. He told me it's tasty.

How many times do I need to say that? Haha

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GinUtero · 13/02/2014 11:02

You may have said it to him, but it obviously hasn't got through to him - that's what I mean by make it clear to him.

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