Have had a really crap day at work today. Totally humiliated by a work colleague who decided to give me a major bollocking in front of everyone for doing something wrong on a spreadsheet, rather than taking me to one side and explaining my mistake so I could rectify it.
DP called me at lunchtime to talk about coming round this evening. I promptly burst into tears, told him I was having a bad day and we could leave it for tonight if he'd prefer. But he insisted on coming round because I was upset, which was nice to hear.
When he finally did turn up tonight (after going down the pub and then grabbing some dinner from the chip shop), I was just putting DD to bed. When I came back downstairs, he said "So, do you want to tell me about today, or just write it off and forget about it?". I got very tearful and proceeded to tell him what had happened, only to look round and see him checking the texts on his phone! I stopped mid-sentence, looked at him and eventually he looked up from his phone and said "Yes, I'm listening" (clearly hadn't been, considering how long it took him to realise I'd stopped talking).
"Sorry, I'll let you get back to your phone" I said, then skulked off to the kitchen to get on with the washing-up. I guess I was hoping he'd follow me in there, apologise and let me finish my story. But no, next thing I heard was him chuckling at something on the telly.
So I sat in the kitchen for a while, had a little cry, made myself a cuppa and came back into the lounge to find him fast asleep on the sofa.
He woke up five minutes ago, sat up, gave me a peck on the cheek and told me he was going up.
I am truly gutted. I just wanted to get off my chest what a horrible day I'd had and have him give me a big cuddle to make me feel better. Instead I'm sat here wondering if this is beginning to get a bit one-sided. I've listened to him and comforted him when he's been through crap in the past. Was it really asking too much to expect the same from him?
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DP really not that bothered?
Prforone · 12/02/2014 22:51
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