Things you have done or achieved since a break up to inspire anyone in a painful place.
Ill start.
Went on holiday abroad with just my dc,
Danced on a beach till dawn in Ibiza.
Lost three stone.
Had long dark hair cut into a blonde bob.
Had a lot of sex.
Reconnected with or made loads of lovely friends.
Drank beef in the bath.
Had weetabix for tea.
Went to lots of festivals with or without dc.
Laughed and laughed.
Traded in the family saloon for a golf convertible.
Got much closer to my children.
I could go on.
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I did this before but let's do it again today
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Ledkr · 12/02/2014 08:55
OP posts:
Inspiring, MNers.
sillymillyb ·
12/02/2014 09:25
Ahh thank you for this. My list is paltry as I think I have put life on hold a bit, but, that's all changing this year! So, since my ex left, I have:
Raised my ds alone since, er, conception 
Went back to uni to study law
Took control of my debt
Took the step to start, and have now finished, psychotherapy and feeling bloody brilliant for it!
Next things for me are a holiday alone with my boy, and to lose the weight I've gained. I also like the sound of drinking beef in the bath so will add that to the list too! 
sillymillyb ·
12/02/2014 09:27
Ooh yes! I got my tattoo as well!
Oh and I wear flat shoes now because they dont make me look fat...
Nowstrong ·
12/02/2014 09:28
Reconnected with my family and friends, plus made many more
Took-up sport and skiing again
Travelled intensely
Rediscovered that sex could be amazing
Feel loved and cared for (and spoilt)
Can now lie-in on week-ends (he used to bang about until I got up to get whatever he needed, i.e. a cup of tea 
)
Changed my old car which HE chose, for a convertible shiny new one
Changed my entire wardrobe
Lost weight
All of my skin problems and allergies have magically disappeared
Must be lots more, but that is a good start
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t3rr3gl35 ·
12/02/2014 11:25
I found me again, and realised that I was actually an OK person.
Lost weight.
Discovered my income paid the bills and more.
Bought tomato ketchup - previously banned.
Found a space in fridge for permanent bottle champagne.
But mostly - I found me again.
FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse ·
12/02/2014 11:36
Went on a holiday of a lifetime
Rediscovered me and realised that an awful lot of men find me attractive 
Met a younger, hotter, more wealthy, kind, caring man who considered it an honour that me and the dcs wanted him as a part of our family (and not the burden that XH had told us we would be)
Moved to a new area and a new life
Smiled. Everyone commented on how much happier I am.
Danced in the rain
Swam naked in the sea
Saw how relaxed the dcs are now
Bought the house of my dreams (well it will be in 20 years once we've sorted it)
Became a lot closer to my family
Used contact weekends to go out and have too much fun
Became happy :) and having said I would never have another dc (due to no support from XH), I had another dc. And it was wonderful. Dh helps and cares and it's everything I dreamed it could be. If I'd never left I'd never have known.
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