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My ex Prince Charming

(16 Posts)
Suicidal5833 Tue 11-Feb-14 07:26:45

He got back in contact via FB after ten years asking me to be his friend. I thought it's been ten years he can't possibly still hate me and it's just a FB friend so accepted.

Nope he called me a cunt numerous times and then he called me a slag and when I asked why he still cared he went nuts at me calling me everything under the sun. As he had accused me of sleeping around a lot I Then the next day when I mentioned a event in which he took drugs had another girl sleep over and hit me when I was pregnant he started saying I'm a paranoid pychotic delusioner.

He accused my husbands kids of not being his and when I said I'm perfectly happy blocked me. Out of everything he did that hurt the most because it's what I should of done the moment he started me things. But I still remember his beating too easily and still I react like a stupid frozen lamb.

What I don't get is why he lied about things he has done does he really believe his own lies? Or is he doing it to convince me I'm insane (which I actually am I have bipolar which he'd have a field day if he knew about)

Pantah630 Tue 11-Feb-14 07:52:42

The first time he called you a cunt, you should have unfriended and blocked. You know that though, don't give him further headspace, he's not worth it.

Aussiebean Tue 11-Feb-14 07:55:57

You need to ask yourself why you didn't block him the moment he first insulted you. You may even want to think about why you became friends with him on fb after what he did. Just because someone sends a friend request you don't have to accept it.

Next you need to stop giving this person space I'm your brain. Who cares why he lies. Who cares why he does anything? He is not in your life anymore. You are happy so dont give him an more of your power.

Deathwatchbeetle Tue 11-Feb-14 07:57:32

What is this pull that facebook has over people that makes them still be in contact with abusive people? Why would you want him as any sort of friend albeit a facebook one????? Is facebook THAT fascinating. I will never understand this but them I do not bother with FB or twitter or any of those things.

Did you think he was going to be different on FB? Admit all his bad behaviour? SHEEESH!

Guiltypleasures001 Tue 11-Feb-14 07:57:55

Hunny your not insane he is a very damaged individual, please block and detach he won't change and you shouldn't be caring whether he has or not, your the one that got away he will never forgive that.

Please continue to move forward and get some counselling if you have not already, his opinion is just that it's his, like a chocolate fire guard pointless and useless much like him. brew thanks

Suicidal5833 Tue 11-Feb-14 08:00:21

I accepted his friend request hoping for answers you see I have a pychotic mental illness that was undisguised during our time together I hoped to get the truth about what had happend . I didn't block him straight away because I always freeze up when he attacks me in any form.

Lweji Tue 11-Feb-14 08:00:37

Why did you accept his friendship?

He was abusive to you! He beat you.
Never mind if he still hated you or not.

Do not engage any abusive people ever again.

I have to be in touch with ex because of DS, but even he doesn't want to be in contact with his dad.

Don't worry about why he does what he does.

Personally, I'd save the insults and his contact messages, and would report to the police if he ever gets in contact again.

Suicidal5833 Tue 11-Feb-14 08:02:31

I've already deleted them to get him out of my life.

Anniegetyourgun Tue 11-Feb-14 08:11:56

Sounds like you aren't the only one in that relationship who had a mental illness. The difference is that you are not a nasty person, just an ill one. You're looking after yourself and your family, living a decent life. He's contacting exes from decades ago to say a whole load of horrible lies and accusations. Which one of you has the problem? It doesn't look like it's you!

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 11-Feb-14 08:36:37

That level of verbal abuse should be reported to the police. Ten years he holds a grudge? Seriously disturbed and I would think dangerous individual...

LilyBlossom14 Tue 11-Feb-14 08:37:38

Don't blame his appalling behaviour on mental illness! He is behaving like this because he is a cunt - there is no other excuse. Do not honour him with a reason for sedning such messages. OP it ain't your fault he is like this, and this just goes to show how lucky you are not to have him in your life any more.

ALittleStranger Tue 11-Feb-14 08:44:02

Annie being an abusive cunt isn't a mental illness. I suggest you check out the Rethink campaign.

Suicidal5833 Tue 11-Feb-14 09:56:43

Thank you.

Freyalright Tue 11-Feb-14 11:32:34

Don't link insanity and bipolar, it's doesn't help others or yourself.

DCRbye Tue 11-Feb-14 20:16:43

I think if you can stay angry for that long you've got pretty serious problems. Block. Block. Block and thank your lucky stars that you got away.

Anniegetyourgun Tue 11-Feb-14 23:08:40

Annie being an abusive cunt isn't a mental illness. I suggest you check out the Rethink campaign

Sorry, of course not, I didn't mean to imply that it was. I posted just before dashing out to work - always a bad move - and failed to make the distinction I was trying to, between someone who has illness and someone who would be a nasty type regardless of whether they had one or not. I felt that the OP seemed to think less of herself because of the bipolar and wanted to explain she should not do so. I apologise for any offence caused.

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