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How old we're you when you lost your big V

(140 Posts)
Flowerybitch Mon 10-Feb-14 20:39:16

I was 14 and when I look back now I was soo young but thought I knew everything, lasted 2 minutes and really not all it was cracked up to be. Has anyone got any horror stories about their first time they would like to share :-)

ephemeralfairy Thu 13-Feb-14 13:15:47

17. I was trying to get rid of it long before that though...

HandbagCrazy Thu 13-Feb-14 11:51:43

15 with my first boyfriend. It was ok, painless and sweet. Although he became a nasty bastard after being togther for a year, i dont regret it because sex was one of the only things he was consistently nice about / good at

AmazingJumper Thu 13-Feb-14 01:25:03

19. First boyfriend.

MeltyChocolate Thu 13-Feb-14 01:12:46

I was 12 and it was on 4th July, in Florida. He didn't know my age, i looked older. Way too young and regretted it since

muddylettuce Wed 12-Feb-14 21:46:58

15, with an on off boyfriend, at Glastonbury '98. It was cold, we were stoned, smelly and muddy but I smile when I remember grin. Ahhhh, to be carefree!

Golferman Wed 12-Feb-14 19:36:15

A mans experience; I was 17 and was a girl at college but I was pretty drunk which rather spoiled it. Three years later took my now wife's virginity, in the shower at the college in Paris she was at for three months.

AnneWentworth Wed 12-Feb-14 14:39:10

15, drunk, party crap.

SteveBrucesNose Wed 12-Feb-14 14:23:38

15, at a party, on my friends bed. It was, well, meh. Not very successful.

I believe he's gay too now.

kmc1111 Wed 12-Feb-14 14:23:24

15. One time thing with a friend not a boyfriend IYKWIM. It was really, really good. Unfortunately that meant the bar was set high and for the next few years it was just one disappointment after another.

CoffeeChocolateWine Wed 12-Feb-14 13:56:15

I was 19 and it was with my brother's best mate who I had adored for years. We got together eventually and lasted almost a year. First time was ok but not really earth moving. It got better though! He's gay now. Don't think that had anything to do with me though!

halfwildlingwoman Wed 12-Feb-14 13:42:16

Elvis! Jealous.
I should have done it with my best friend and first love, the week before I left for university we spent a night on a mates sofa and did 'everythingbut'.... I really wanted to, but I knew that he didn't love me the way I loved him and I was too scared/romantic to let it be like that. I really regret not doing it with him, he was a lovely lover. We are still friends now, which is pretty special.
It actually happened when I was 19, at the end of my first year at uni. He was a very pretty Irish boy, drunk and couldn't keep it up for very long. Deeply depressing really.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP Wed 12-Feb-14 13:16:53

17. First boyfriend. Enjoyed it.

fiftyandfab Wed 12-Feb-14 04:05:56

erroneous very annoying and unworthy of my response <growl>

samesizetoes Wed 12-Feb-14 00:13:20

I was 16, he was 19. On a rugby pitch and the groundsman caught us whilst doing his rounds. blush

NinjaCow Wed 12-Feb-14 00:02:59

15. I liked it, was kinda painful though. I was naive, my boyfriend was anything but.

DCRbye Tue 11-Feb-14 19:56:16

16. In the sea! Ouch!

ElvisJesusAndCocaCola Tue 11-Feb-14 19:55:14


This may totally put me, but hey.

I suffered from vaginismus, so no sex, even though I'd had a couple of close boyfriends.

Travelling round the world, met a guy on a thai beach. Nice night out. Then he said, no offence, but I don't do it with virgins. What a fucker!

So the next night I went out and met a hot Israeli basketball coach. I told him all about it and we went and got stoned and I lost it with him. A hot Israeli basketball coach. Stoned. On a thai beach.

It was worth the wait grin

hickorychicken Tue 11-Feb-14 17:44:09

14, ONS was shit. I didnt really enjoy sex until i was nearlly 16, because it was with someone i realllly liked.

napoleonsnose Tue 11-Feb-14 17:36:01

16 and was nothing special on a school trip. We were bf and gf for a bit but no great romance. Next, at 18 to a man 10 years older than me. Now that was far more exciting. Sex in all sorts of unusual places! Lost contact but saw him again after 20 years about 4 years ago and wondered what on Earth I had been thinking!

knowledgeispower Tue 11-Feb-14 17:35:54

19 ONS...'late bloomer' and terribly shy! How things change ;-)

oldfashionedgirl Tue 11-Feb-14 17:23:57

Still haven't and am now old. sad

ItsAlmostPerfect Tue 11-Feb-14 17:15:11

17 - with my first boyfriend, who is now seeing my ex best friend.

GilmoursPillow Tue 11-Feb-14 16:45:54

I was 15. It was painful and incredibly unromantic. He was 29. I realise just how wrong it all was now, and just how little control I had over my life then despite thinking I knew it all.

MirandaWest Tue 11-Feb-14 16:07:47

I was 19. Was with my first boyfriend who became my DH for 12 years.

christmashope Tue 11-Feb-14 16:04:54

It was on my 15th birthday with my 15 year old boyfriend. We had met on holiday in Spain in the October, he lived over 500 miles away but came to see me for a holiday for my birthday in the January.
Don't regret it, it wasn't great and hurt a fair bit.
My next boyfriend was a much better experience and I thought ok this is what everyone is talking about lol
Was I too young? Hmm I don't know I was always old for my age and we practiced safe sex.

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