- He destroyed the confident, kickass woman that I had become after an abusive marriage.
- I gave up hope of having the career I thought I could have after gaining a 2.1 degree while being a single parent.
- He took away my voice, the ability to speak up, the ability to express how I felt.
- He gradually eroded my savings while I quietly supported our family with my savings. While he kept quiet when people assumed he (the one without the dough) was the breadwinner.
- He laughs at me, calls me names, tells me I'm stupid.
And there is so much more.
Leaving is a process. I've only just started that process. Weve been together for over 10 years (9 yrs, 11 mths too long).
Im finding it difficult not telling him yet. I am quietly organising, getting advice, another sol appt nxt monday (had a few false starts - thought the first solicitor would be ideal as she specialised in dom abuse, but left her office more depressed than I went in).
H is being arrogant, entitled, thinking he has got one over on me because he hasnt given me any money since mid december. He has bought some food for us but it is food HE thinks we should eat. While he hosts dinner parties at his flat.
I need to know Im doing the right thing. Sometimes I feel like giving in to him & accepting that this is my lot. BUT a very small part of me wants to kick him on the balls.
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januarycat · 10/02/2014 20:12
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