My OH has an extremely high libido. He would happily have sex every day, twice a day with a few knuckle shuffles thrown in for good measure.
I could quite happily never have sex again. It truly wouldn't bother me.
This difference in libidos is causing a problem. My OH will sit in his room for hours on eBay, barely spend ten minutes with me in 24 hours and then come in and ask if I'm up for it?
We have four kids, the oldest is 15, the youngest 10.
When I do capitulate, he lays back and asks me to be 'nice to him' his way of asking for a BJ. He always tries to get me to have anal sex and I just don't want that, thank you very much, but he never leaves it alone and constantly fiddles with my bum, saying I'd like it if I gave it a go.
I've tried telling him I'm not a porn star (he watches a lot of porn) and that those women have enemas and if he did it with me he'd get poo on him, but he just says he'll wear a condom.
When we do have sex he acts like he's in a porn film, and constantly asks if he can film close ups of our genitals doing it.
To be frank, I don't want to have sex with him anymore because of all these off putting sexual demands. He keeps trying to fist me and tells me if I just put up with a little pain he'll be successful and he gets all sulky and like a little boy when I tell him to stop, cos it hurts.
Physically, I don't find him attractive. He's got a big beer belly and cold flabby skin with wiry hairs and his breath is like sour meat at times.
I know, I'm moaning a lot, I know I'm not perfect either, but am I being unreasonable?
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