I know this subject has been covered before but would like to hear from anyone who has done it or thought about it. Very briefly (as I don't think it is massively relevent to the question). Exp left me when pregnant, moved in with OW two month later, two months after I gave birth (which he did not attend) they had a whirlwind engagement and exp didn't see dd for the first time until she was 4 months old. Now he sees her about every four months (no presents and little financial support) which, although is sad for dd, I am pleased as it means I have to deal with OW as little as possible.
Needless to say I was a mess throughout my pregnancy and in a fog the first year of DD's life (she is 15 months now). I am slowly, slowly rebuilding my life (I lost a lot including my home and job during this period) and am now even considering getting back in the dating game as I realise I need to move on from all this and focus on building up mine and DD's life.
However, there is something niggling me....and that is that I want OW to know what she did to me, I mean in my own words! I feel like this is almost the last bit of the puzzle in allowing me to move on. Of course in my fantasy I meet her IRL and call her a bitch, whore etc but in reality that is not my style. I was thinking something very detached, just asking her if she realises what it does to a pregnant woman to have her man go off with someone else? Wondering how she could stand by watching exp ignore the birth and so on. Not going to call names or slander. I guess just give her something to think about and really just end up by saying karma will get her in the end.
Anyone done this? I am not expecting anything from this apart from some peace of mind for myself. I don't expect, nor do I want an apology from the woman. I have never met her nor do I expect to for a long time (unless exp suddenly wants to be more involved in dd's life). I feel like I just need to tell her and move on.
Is this a bad idea? I am pretty sure exp will have something to say about it but don't really care about that as we have a non existent relationship anyway (rarely communicate unless he decides to have some contact with dd).
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giggleshizz · 08/02/2014 13:21
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