Fed up

[SpaceKoala]

Just spoke to my partner who has mental health issues and is alcohol dependant.
He has been on a detox all week, nhs thing where he had to attend a centre on a daily basis. He did very well and seemed dedicated until today. He sounded like he had quite a bit to drink.
This was his last chance as far as I concerned, i do not want to live like this anymore.
He has had plenty of chances and has now blown this clearly.
Is still on detox medicine which he isn't supposed to drink with.
He insisted on phone that he didn't have a drink.
But is slurring.
But scared. We have two young toddlers who I don't want yo grow up in a household like this.
Not sure whether to leave or get him to leave. What about my job and child care.
Don't know where to start. Have to family in UK.
All I know is this must end and he had his last chance.

[AliceinWinterWonderland]

Are you outside the UK then?

[Whereisegg]

Could his medication make him slur?

[SpaceKoala]

Sorry, meant to say have no family in the UK
And don't think it's medication, it's the same one he's been all since Monday and dosage really low. Was high on Monday and gradually reduced

[SpaceKoala]

Sorry about spelling and auto correct errors. On phone whilst settling children for the night.

[AliceinWinterWonderland]

How soon is he expected home? I suppose it will be pretty obvious if he's been drinking at that point, if he has. What type of drunk is he? I know this is a bit of a stupid question, but there is a reason I ask. If he is a nasty violent drunk, you need to head off his arrival. If he is a happy, sleep it off and not bother anyone drunk, you can steer him to his room and ignore him while you plan what you're going to do.

[SpaceKoala]

He's home now
Insist didn't drink but 100% sure he has.
He's a very argumentative drunk, not physically violent though
No point in reasoning at this stage
Will just deny and shout.
Is already nearly asleep on sofa.
Lovely for toddlers to see

[AliceinWinterWonderland]

If they're toddlers, perhaps they just think he's very sleepy. One can hope anyway.

At least if he's asleep at this point, you can think and figure out what you want to do without him creating a fuss. My biggest concern was safety in case he was a violent drunk.

[SpaceKoala]

Thanks for your concern Alice
Just so scared, worried, insecure about what to do now

[MistletoeBUTNOwine]

You should go to an al-anon meeting