I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year now. We have a great sex life which we very openly talk about and never feel awkward or uncomfortable to do so.
During a conversation we had a few weeks back I asked my boyfriend if he has watched porn while we have been together he admitted he had once to get some sex position ideas and even told me the sites he had been on as he had been on them a lot when he was single. I was fine with what he said and it didn't bother me and the conversation was left at that.
I recently had suspicion that he had been going on it again, long story how I had a feeling about it but I did and so I checked his history one morning and it was deleted. I asked him why he deleted his history and he said he was looking for gifts for valentines day. I asked him " are you watching porn" and he replied "no"
There was something about it that I didn't believe him. I went to work and it played in my mind all day... I had to know...he then tx me while i was at work admitting that he had and again it was to to look at sex positions as he felt he wasn't pleasing me. So when I got home I looked at his phone and being good with technology I found out what he had been on, now it didn't tell me what days but did tell me the amount of data used on each site visitedand there it was porn all over with a lot of data.
I burst in to tears and confronted him. I was so upset he had been going on porn more than the once in a blue moon that he had admitted to, and admitted that he had been on it everyday so far this week. I stormed downstairs and sobbed, I was devastated that he had lied and I was thinking what am I doing wrong?? Calmed down and went to talk to him about it. I told him that e had ruined our brilliant sex life and I don't think I would be the same in bed again and that I feel really insecure. We spoke some more and I thought it wasn't that big if a deal to break is up but j did tell him this is going to take some time to get over kn my side.He was really embarrassed said he was sorry and that he won't do it again and that he feels better for talking about it. I don't believe he will not go on it again.
We have since made love and it was not awkward at all it was just as great as any other time. My question of advice is have I dealt with this in a good way or have I been far to soft and he may think that he got away with it and I'm a push over. It does play in my mind and it turns my stomach and I want to ask him what kind of things he has been looking at? But I feel if I do then I will come across as keep bringing it up. This is all fresh to is still as it only happened yesterday... What do i do? Shall I leave it and get over it hoping if will heal or shall I ask him? And how should I ask him? Have I acted the correct way or am I just a push over??
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I found out my boyfriend has been watching porn
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