I will probably get leapt on here and told to LTB.
But here goes.
In 3 month relationship with new man. All seemed to be going well, intense, after a month he said he loved me and I love him.
He is adopted from age of 2. Doesn't have a good relationship with adoptive parents at all, they brought him up but no love lost on both sides. He now wants to look into finding his birth mother and feels abandoned. He also thinks this may be the reason why he can't take women back to his house (untidyness) which has been the case with me and his previous girlfriend before me December 2012.
He said last year he wanted me to visit, cosy nights in watching films and for me to stay over.
Last night we had a talk which turned into an argument as he now says he is very confused, withdrawn and sees work as his saviour. Now doesn't say he loves me although does when pressed.
I did say to him, what do you want me to do then? Leave you or stay with you. At first he wasn't sure (as to what his feelings would be after the adoption finding mother process) and then he said no he wanted me to stay with him. He got upset that I got angry over this and I said I appreciate his situation but wouldn't he be angry?
My heart says now - cut this short. My head says "that would be unfair and he's going through a rough patch".
I know what the vast majority of you will say - LTB but just wanted some more input. It's 3 months FGS but this was not a problem when we met and has only been flagged up last week.
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HelloBoys · 07/02/2014 11:10
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