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Dear husband (a confession)

(281 Posts)
freakydoris Wed 05-Feb-14 11:29:05

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Only1scoop Wed 05-Feb-14 11:33:08

Dp I ran our new car so low on diesel that it caused a two week stay in garage and had to have all the bits specialist cleaned....
I'm sorry if I denied it and laughed when you suggested such a thing and said something like "do you really think I'm totally clueless"

Thanks OP I feel better now smile

mrsjrob Wed 05-Feb-14 11:44:16

Dh you know when I said I put the beautiful necklace you bought me on honeymoon in my jewellery box, actually I have lost it and i broke the oven glass and blamed you. I am a bad wife

GinOnTwoWheels Wed 05-Feb-14 11:45:10

The person who scraped the car bumper in the shopping centre carpark was..... me, not a mystery person who did it and drove off without leaving a note.

Foxred10 Wed 05-Feb-14 11:57:17

Dear husband,
I'm sorry I gave your car back with no fuel in it and no washer fluid. I know I said the washer fluid warning must have JUST come on, but really it had been on for days and I just couldn't be arsed standing in the rain to fill it up hmm. Also I took £80 out of your dinner jacket pocket that I found when I took the dry cleaning in and didnt tell you because I was cross I had to pay for all the kids Christmas presents.
Also that thing you do with your tongue that you think's really clever? I hate that. smile

Showy Wed 05-Feb-14 12:02:20

Dear DH,

I really, really, really don't want to go back to work this year. I want just one more year with the dc before they have two full time working parents. I know this is selfish, I know you've been holding up the fort financially since dc1 was born and I will do it and I will have gainful ft employment and I won't tell you just how wretched and miserable it makes me and how much I worry about what it will be like. I'm sorry I'm smiling and pretending I'm 100% positive about going back to work. I am dreading it.


Dear dh,

I am sorry I am such an all-round useless wife. You support the family single handed, do lots of the cooking, help with the housework and do the ironing, even though I am a SAHM, because depression constantly saps my energy and willpower, so I struggle to do even the bare minimum. And on top of all this, I have zero libido, so you don't get sex very often.

I wouldn't blame you if you left me for someone slimmer, prettier, happier and generally better than me.


magimedi Wed 05-Feb-14 12:09:58

SDTG have a hug from me - that's a lovely, if very sad, post & I bet your DH loves you to pieces & back again. I hope you get well soon - it is an illness, just as much as a physical one, and it is not your fault.


PS - I think you should show him that post .

ChippingInWadesIn Wed 05-Feb-14 12:10:29

Showy Tell him!!

SDTG sad Tell him how fab he is and how much you appreciate & love him x

Showy Wed 05-Feb-14 12:15:03

Oh SDTG sad. Please show him this. You are so lovely.

Chipping, I can't tell him. I was supposed to go back to work after maternity leave with DC1 but had horrific PND and PTSD and stayed at home. Then I had DC2 and found that being a SAHM really, really mattered to me. DH has supported the family for 6, nearly 7 years. I agreed I'd go back to work. I just can't bear the idea of somebody else looking after DS for 9 hours a day, wiping his tears, him falling in love with them. I'll miss all of dd's shows and nativities and parents days at schools. Of FFS. It makes me sob.

Don't worry. I'm winning the lottery this week so it'll be fine.

Ohhh magimedi and Chipping - you have made me cry - thank you for being so nice! And I do tell him, I honestly do.

FunLovinBunster Wed 05-Feb-14 12:21:54

Dear DP.
A lot of the time you get on my tits.
But then I probably get on your moobs too.
Ps I bribe DD with iPad so I get to watch The Real Housewives of OC/Beverly Hills/NYC instead of CBBC. DD calls them the crap housewives of crap world. She is 7. And can spell bugger.

TobyLerone Wed 05-Feb-14 12:22:22

SDTG he does it because he loves you. You're fabulous.

brighthouse Wed 05-Feb-14 12:35:58

Dear DH,

I am sorry that is cost us fortune to replace the car alloy & tyre. It was not the police coming very fast along the road so I had to mount a very high kerb to keep get out their way. It was your wife being nosy at a house for sale, distracted she scaped the kerb quite hard.
and DH i am not going to put a complaint into the police for their erratic driving.


missmagnum Wed 05-Feb-14 12:42:34

Dear DP

The reason we're skint is because I keep going shopping and then pretending I've had it ages. 2014 is the year I stop doing this though, I promise.


ComeOnCaffeine Wed 05-Feb-14 12:42:34

Dear DP,

The mud that is splattered all over the living room wasn't from when you took the dog for a walk yesterday and didnt dry him properly, it was from when I let him out for a wee and I forgot to dry him.

Thanks for cleaning it all up!

Aworryingtrend Wed 05-Feb-14 12:44:38

Dear DH

When you went away last weekend DS and I had a brilliant time just the two of us, it wasn't quite as exhausting, relentless, tiring as I made out blush we actually had a blast. Thanks for doing everything when you got back on Sunday afternoon while I had a long bath and drank wine though!

RandallFloyd Wed 05-Feb-14 12:53:11

Dear XDH

I know exactly where DS got "fucking hell" from. I'm not 'just as confused as you are'. I'm not proud but dropping all that stuff on the floor was really fucking annoying and it just slipped out.


(Manly shoulder punch for SDTG, he loves you, if the shoe was on the other foot you'd do exactly the same for him)

MarmaladeShatkins Wed 05-Feb-14 12:54:00

Showy and SDTG <manly hugs> flowers You are ace wimmin and better than you think you are. Honest.

SimplyRedHead Wed 05-Feb-14 12:54:26

Dear DH
I reversed your lovely shiny BMW car into a brick pillar a few months ago and didn't tell you. You may will find a scrape on your back passenger side.

MarmaladeShatkins Wed 05-Feb-14 12:56:33

Dear DH,

One day last term, I let DS have a day off school because it was lashing down with rain, howling with wind and I couldn't find my umbrella. I couldn't face the ten minute walk there and ten minute walk back. So I let him stay at home and we played Minecraft all day and ate rubbish.

I feel bad about this.

Twatters. wine

Poledra Wed 05-Feb-14 13:06:39

Dear DH

I know we agreed that you could have 6 months off to think about what you wanted to do when you were made redundant. But you know, it's been 6 months now and I don't know what you're doing with your time. I still do most of the housework. I organise the childrens' social lives/clubs/school stuff etc. Yes, you've really taken on the cooking but I quite like cooking. I fucking hate cleaning the toilet and you never do that. You said you were doing your OU degree work but now you're saying you're going to have to defer as you've running so far behind. So I ask again - what are you fucking doing all day?

I love you dearly, and was happy when that shower of arseholes you worked for made you redundant but I cannot continue to work FT and pick up all the housework while you are in the house all day. I said I would do it if you got on with the DIY you didn't time for before, but that's not been done either. I am ashamed of the state of our house, as it's been waiting for work to be done on it for years. Please please shift yer arse and get started. Then I won't feel so put-upon, financially supporting us all, shooting for promotion and still doing all the 'wife-work'.


ChippingInWadesIn Wed 05-Feb-14 13:07:26

Well, that's OK then showy - I wont bother buying one this week smile

SDTG flowers

Twatters - hell you do! grin

Some of these are priceless!

Poledra Wed 05-Feb-14 13:07:41

Oops, not really a confession, more of a rant - sorry blush

ChippingInWadesIn Wed 05-Feb-14 13:08:53

Pol - I hope you are actually going to say that to him!! That's so 'not on' Grr

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