My boyfriend of 5 years broke with me 3 weeks ago. We had our issues and niggles, some related to living quite far apart, but basically we were really compatible.
Our last weekend together did not go well. I was in a bad mood. He departed sooner than planned, then neither of us texted the other for over a week. I assumed he was fed up with me and thought it best to leave him alone, but this non-contact seems to have been one of the things he has been dwelling on. He is a very sensitive type and has walked out a couple of times before in similar circumstances; any form of conflict really upsets him.
I KNOW we can make this work much better with effort which I am prepared to make. I know where I have been going wrong and what I have to do.
Immediately after the break up he sent me an email. Just a link and an X. So, he was telling me he wanted to remain in touch. We've exchanged a few texts mostly initiated by me, but one by him. He seems to be opening up a bit and even used the word 'we' in his last message.
I think I have to suggest a meeting. ( I don’t think he will suggest anything at this point because he won’t want to look as though he is going back on himself?) I’m going to be in his city later this week and could suggest meeting for coffee. I’m confident I can remain calm and collected and positive (outwardly). Does this sound reasonable? Part of me says, forget it, let him come to me, but if I do nothing, I could be waiting a long, long time, and the opportunity might be missed.
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Break up devastation - trying to turn things around
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sami99 · 04/02/2014 21:05
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