Just advice needed really!
I want best for my dd and i think extended family involvence is of paramount importance! BUT ! My inlaws are awful. My mil is the moat self centered hyprochondriac i have ever met. She is also obsessed with my dh and needs him to be the man in her life that she doesnt have. She is very manipulative and is insanely protective of my dh.. To the point of delusional. Seriously. He does no wrong. I am controlling, hot - headed and jelous (according to her). Her son (in her eyes) is alwaaaays the victem (like her). Lately it has gotten too much. Me and my dh rowed, he went to stay Mil's for the night (this is the second time it has happened it 2 years) not fab- but not awful either! My dh left saying he was off there or off to shag anoter woman (he feels awful now) so next day his mum phones me and lo and behold its my fault! I get the usual shit that i am this and that and that she thinks we ahould split and then asked i dh would get access!?! I mean come on!! It was a row that got out of hand. He shouldnt have gone there but ahe didnt have to get involved to that extent!! We made up the next day and she cried all day and cancelled her plans as she was so upset! Why!? She always makes everytging about her - i swear to god the past 6 times ahe has met my aunty ahe has cried- just to give u an example of how mich she cries and talks about her herself!!
Then my rough sil got involved cos id upset her mum and threatned to slap me!! So it all
Became my fault that my dh left me and my dd ad went to his mothers! The last time we rowed she phoned me and said she had wanted to end it all because of our row!?! She is so involved in our lives because she doesnt have one. I would feel sad for her but she has been so vindictive it is hard to sympathise. She is now telling people we should split up for dds sake! We barely argue anymore!? This is because she is no longer round her 3 times a week, sleepiing over etc! I finally saw sense and cut down the visits and now she wants us over. I am now in a dillema as i hate her ( as do my own family now- my mother is livid!!) but she is my dds gran and watches her on a sat for a couple of hours. So i need to make up as i drop dd there etc. but i am so hurt and angry- as is my dh. I am on ADs recently - and i feel infintily better, but all of this suffocation from his family was honestly partly to blame for my pnd i believe. Tonight his sister has been arsey again sayin i should phone her poor mum who is upset. I honestly wanna leave this town. I feel so low i have this to handle foerver! Dh is on my side and very guilty about it all, but i still feel bullied by them :( i am normally quite bolshy in these sotuations but deep down i am very upset and hurt.
What would you do?
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Madonnaquintessential · 04/02/2014 19:18
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