We're in massive debt - half of it is his gambling debts. Every month is a struggle.
We've been there, done GA etc and for 2+ years I've had control of his money and we're finally seeing the benefits. Except he's been lying, he still owes money to friends and is quite willing to take every penny he can and leave me with nothing, just to cover what he owes them. He continues to smoke and goes to the pub every day after work while he waits for me to pick him up.
I'm not naive, his pay goes into my bank, the bills are always paid. But I want him to start suffering the consequences, without leaving him with no alternative but to gamble again.
I'm so angry with him, but not sure how I can make him realise that he's not having any money from me unless he accounts for his spending, without me sounding like his mother, lecturing him and giving him no real responsibility.
btw he's happy for me to dish out pocket money, but it's obviously not enough and hes borrowed until he can't pay it back and then breaks down and tells me.
I could throttle him. I've screamed at him, he says he's ashamed and sorry and can't cope etc.
He's the sweetest, kindest, most loving, warm-hearted person who is my best friend as well as my husband, but I have reached the end of my tether with the shit financial situation.
I have no one to confide in about this. I know I should leave him to get on with it, we split whats left after bills and if he cant survive on it then touch, but I always give in and give him what I have.
I know things have been a lot worse, but I can't accept the lies. Not after everything we've been though.
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DH is useless with money
givemecoffee · 03/02/2014 15:42
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