have been married for 16yrs and we have 3 kids ages 15, 12&7
I don't love, like or respect my husband.
mostly because of past issues (his gambling and getting me in such debt I had to go bankrupt.
unforgivable.
we have split up twice in the last 4 yrs most recently in the summer of last year.
we went to relate and after six weeks of expense and getting no where we stopped and although things improved for a while its now awful.
I accidentally got pregnant in Sept last year and the thought of having a baby with him filled me with horror. I had a termination in December and am so sure I made the right decision.
he wasn't supportive when I was going through all this.
my family and friends all know how unhappy I am and urge me to get a divorce.
I want this too but there are some factors that make it hard.
he is foreign and so has no family here and the only friends he has are work colleagues so he will have no where to live.
our son is in his final year at school with exam stress to worry about and I fear this will make him even more stressed.
the first time we split he threatened to kill himself and ended up in a mental health hospital.
I need to do this for me , for my own sanity I can't grow old with him, the very idea of that scares the hell out of me.
how do I get the words out ?
he knows I don't love him or fancy him but he just seems to brush this under the carpet. he never takes my feelings on board.
would appreciate any advice.
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help me to tell him its over
wonderingwendy · 02/02/2014 16:08
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