Sorry being a bit greedy as I have another thread running.
Backstory goes....DH of 15 years tells me he does not love me anymore on christmas day.for me there was NO warning we were rock solid, at least I thought. He stays for two weeks then leaves me and the kids
without explanation/or good reason. He stayed with a mate for one night but has been sleeping on monster in laws sofa for the past 3 weeks. It took me 2 weeks to drag an address out of him (his mum had just moved, I only knew the town name).
He then goes NC, phone not answered, off, straight to voicemail, no text replied. I panic he has done something stupid. Eventually he contacts me and accuses me of stalking him and madness!
He spent the first week away getting drunk, the second angry at me? And the third calm.
He had scared me with his suggestion of divorce we went straight into mediation.He was calm again in this meeting, I was bewildered.
Since the mediation he has been back round a few times and he got talking of what he is losing and the realisation of his actions. This had been the first occasion weve had the chance since the split without the kids around. I saw glimpses of my DH again for the first time since his revelation.
It has dawned on him what he is losing and the damage it has caused. I have always told him the doors open. He is having a crisis of sorts, feeling life is going in circles as if each day is groundhog day!Any little problems we had have built up in him until he imploded.
He is finally saying he may come home but that it should be for the right reason, his commitment to me. I know his right. Im now left in limbo as hes got to clear his head. Of course I want him back.
Has anybody got any experience if things can go good (or bad) after a situation like this?
My husband and I were close before all this, no ow,despite everything we are still really friendly.
Help I want it to work!
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my dh left me a month ago, possibly coming home, anyone experienced this good/bad
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