My partner and I are having a few problems mostly arguing sometimes of silly things, this can escalate to shouting(no kids)
Like Friday every thing fine, had a nice day. Is dad is in hospital at the mo collapsed 2nd time now, so he went to visit him asked does he want me to come with he said no it's fine enough peep going already. So I had bath etc, the radiator in bedroom of son 24 was only luck warm and all the rest with hot so I got bleeder key but couldn't turn it. So when he came back, he immediately said what's that so I explained about radiator and said I couldn't turn it. Well that was the start! He shouted how bloody hot does he want his room, I said again about it being warm. He shouted back if you don't shut up going on I'm going! He as just started saying this the last couple months or so, so I'm sick of hearing it now. I then said stop threatening me with it do something about it. He then starts going on again so I just said to stop this going further just don't talk to me.
So now he as just done that! Friday night we never spoke at all.
Saturday we both just chilled in house, talking when spoken to but ok.
Night time he went to hospital, I was in the bath when he came back I asked how his dad was and he just said horrible and went in bedroom.
I could tell he didn't won't to talk by his actions, like he just got himself a glass of wine(normally does us both one) and went on laptop. Never spoke all night until he got up and said I'm going to bed.
Sunday he goes to tennis early, so when he came back I was on the phone to his sister(she rang to speak to him, but he wasn't back then) he went then to make his breakfast so I knew he didn't want to speak to her. She's a bit of a chatterbox and can talk.
So I told him she was going to the hospital in the afternoon, he said I know and nothing else.
I went to see my sister as she is going to Australia this week so wanted to see her. When I came back he was putting potatoes in oven, still no talking to me. I went in kitchen made the tea he said thanks. No talking still, all last night still not speaking. He is literally talking what I said so not to speak to me.
This morning he told me how much the car would be to fix, I asked had he heard anything about his dad this morning to what I got was no and I'm not liable too. I asked why not and he told me he'd spoke to his dad's wife and she'd spoke to him like a school teacher he is 59 by the way. We've had lunch and now he's gone out not said where just gone.
I don't know what to do anymore! I'm sick of arguing most of the time over silly things that really shouldn't be picked up there that silly.
I don't know if he want/doesn't want to talk, I feel it's so childish.
I never slept most of the night, whilst he was snoring. I feel so miserable and down but don't wont to feel like this as I've just come out the other side of depression which I had for over 12months.
If I say to him can we sort this out he will say I don't won't to argue I've got enough to deal with(which he as said many times) then it all just gets swept under the carpet till next time.
I really don't know what to do or say, do I not talk And wait for him?
I can't stand the atmosphere in the house, I feel tense and I hate it not speaking.
I've nobody else to talk this through with, so would like some advice. Because I don't know how to handle this anymore.
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clio51 · 20/01/2014 14:49
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