Backstory in a nutshell is a breakup 8 months ago when I discovered him with an OW in a bar. he wasn't a catch - he was abusive and cocklodging, manipulative and so on. I was devastated when it ended though - had a breakdown, was signed off work for a bit, was on ADs. Then a few months followed with counselling, read every book recommended and had to confront just how abusive he was. Felt better initially but then 6 months after, felt so low, the most depressed id been, but have turned a corner.
I've come off my meds - I need to feel sharp like I used to and I definitely think that is right for me. I'm so much happier in so many ways - no one bullying me, might get to payday with a penny instead of having kept him, can see my mates without getting abusive messages. I haven't had an argument in all these months. Life is nice. I'm back to my old self.
But I do miss him, the good times, his body, the sex (when he could be bothered to be selfless). Im sad it's over for good. That I'll never be with him again. See him again or anything. We had been on and off over the five years I knew him, not speaking for months at a time and he always came back. But he really isn't.
My head knows it is great that he isn't coming back, but my heart doesn't feel it, as great as I feel now. My heart misses him. I don't understand.
No need to reply, there's nothing anyone can say, I just needed to vent and live with this.
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Still miss the bastard
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Colinbutterfly · 17/01/2014 22:35
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