My husband blames me for everything and I mean everything. He takes absolutely no responsibility for anything in our lives and this leaves it up to me to make sure bills are paid, the house is clean and there's food in the cupboards. He works full time but so do I and I can't always be on top of everything. Tonight, our son was working a backshift (after school job) and wasn't going to be home till after 10pm. I'd had a really hard day at work, came home and made mine and my husbands tea and then sat down with my laptop to do some work at home. At around 9:45pm I asked my partner if he was picking our son up from work and he said yes, I therefore asked him to nip into the store where our son works and grab a fresh pizza so I could just shove it in the oven when they got back (for my son's tea). There was other food in the house but it was proper family meal type stuff and nothing really quick. Come that time of night I just couldn't be bothered preparing anything else.
He completely went off on one and started raiding the freezer to see if there was anything quick in there, he slammed one of the freezer drawers so hard it is now cracked down the front. He was swearing and shouting at me saying it was my fault there was nothing quick in and that it was about time I learned how to do a proper shop!! I do my food shopping online because I don't drive, we live outside of the town and he hates food shopping so refuses to take me. He sees online shopping as being an inferior way to food shop and is always complaining about it saying I'm just lazy.
The weekend just gone, I took a day off work on Friday and spent all day Friday and Saturday helping him clear out his mum's house, which was a pig-sty (I swear she should be on one of those Hoarders programmes). It was his birthday on Sunday so I spent the day pampering him and made a three course meal from scratch for him and his friends to celebrate. I then went back to work on Monday. I didn't expect it to take us so long to clear his mums house and by the time we had finished I just managed to secure a food delivery slot and do a quick shop with the essentials and a few family meals.
I didn't know our son would be working late during this week as he normally only works weekends due to school so I didn't think to get anything quick in.
My husband is prone to mood swings and I am regularly the focus of his anger but tonight seemed to come from nowhere and the way he was acting really scared me. This is the first time I have ever really felt threatened by him. All over a pizza!!!!!
Money is a bit tight at the moment as he hasn't had a pay rise in years and with Christmas, his birthday and the repairs to his mums house, it's been a tight month. He was going mad shouting that I have spent a fortune getting a Tesco shop but I expect him to spend more money in another shop to buy something for our sons tea. He ended the rant by telling me I'm a fat lazy cow and it's funny how there is always money to buy something when I want it but no money when he asks for anything.
All over a £3.00 pizza!!!!
I'm a strong woman normally but tonight as he slammed the front door on his way out after calling me a cow I actually broke down into tears, fell to the floor and sobbed.
He hasn't looked at me or spoken to me since he got back.
Any opinions on this would be really welcome, even if it is to tell me to get a grip.
thanks x
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Is this abuse or am I just over sensitive?
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carter1982 · 14/01/2014 23:13
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