Hello everyone, I'm new on mumsnet so please bear with me. Please do not judge me, I had an affair and now I'm unsure on who the father might be.
First date of my last period according to scan was 16th May, I slept with guy A on 31st May & guy B on 2nd June (2 days apart), my cycle is 30days. With guy A we used withdrawal/ pull out method while with guy B, no protection was used. I just need to know what the chances are of either of them being the dad? Please help!!
As you know, OP, it only takes one sperm to make a baby, so even though using the withdrawal method makes it less likely for you to fall pregnant, theres still a chance due to the pre cum that is ejaculated so you cannot just guess who the DAd is. Youre going to have to have the horrible conversation with your partner and get the DNA once the lo is here.
Please dont play roulette with your sexual health again. Im not going to lecture you on playing with other peoples lives, as Im sure many other posters will do that. Take care.
Prenatal DNA testing isn't widely available in UK, and carries a risk to the baby. If invasive testing is required for a medical reason, then there would be no additional risk if DNA were tested for paternity from the same sample.
Is either of the potential fathers an established partner, Bianca123 ?
something similar happened to me once. It was the guy I didn't use any sort of protection with. The other one had withdrawn.
It was a difficult pregnancy for sure. The guy whose child it wasn't, was relieved and disappointed and quite angry. Obviously.
The other guy said we needed to have a DNA test so we did and it was conclusive.
I am sorry you are in this situation, I imagine you are aware of the opinions of others by now.
I know I was very ignorant at the time and shouldn't have done it. I've grown up a lot since then. I hope that you are in a better place soon and that you have someone to help take care of you and the baby.
Are you still with one of these men op? Do they both know there is a chance they could be the father? Do they know about each other? Is the baby due soon? I would say man b is more likely to be the dad but the only way to be sure is a DNA test. Are you quite young?
Don't worry about being judged, it is not an ideal situation by any means, nor is it sensible to put your health at risk with random unprotected sex, nor kind to cheat. But you know all these things and many women on here could have been in your position at some point in their life but possibly got away with it! Let's not forget that both men had unprotected sex too!
Good luck op. I hope this works out well for all involved particularly your child.
Are you still with the Guy you refer to as the baby's possible father. That is a key part of it for me along with whether you love and respect him. If the answers are negative I'm not sure why it's particularly relevant except of course in relation to maintenance.
If the man with whom you had unprotected sex is your partner and you are with him and love him, I think the chances of you being pregnant by the other man are so remote that you should quiet but treat your partner with absolute respect from now on.
The chances of it being either aren't remote as intercourse occurred with the two men within the in vivo lifetime of sperm, and both within a day of likely ovulation date. The only way to sort this out now is by DNA test.
Much more likely to be B if A fully withdrew before ejaculating. Read stats on withdrawal method. Some studies found it as effective as condoms (for preventing pregnancy only) if the man always withdraws before ejaculation.