So hard for me to write this but I have been living in a celibate marriage (not my choice) for last 7yrs. I told dh tonight that we needed to sort this out once and for all tonight as I have been living with empty promises and various excuses all this time and never any change.
It turns out that although he doesn't have the urge to "get started" with me he can manage to type in "porn" on the internet and knock one out occasionally. He knew this was a deal breaker for me before we married. His excuse being "everyone does it" (he does seem to have sleezy mates tbh).
I have gone through low self esteem and depression brought on by his rejection of me but have tried to get my head in a place where I could cope with it because we have a 7yr old who adores him and I suffered some medical problems which mean I no longer have my business. Money is very tight as we have a house we couldn't sell so had to rent it out to cover mortgage which means I can claim no benefits.
I honestly don't know what to do. I have told him he cannot sleep in my bed (no idea why, its not like he would touch me) and that he must go to gp and seek counselling. (not sure what that will do)
I don't think the porn was an addiction (claims it is recent, 2yrs) but he can only put lack of enthusiasm down to our non-existent sex life.
Can anyone shed any light onto what I should do or say?
I obviously love him and he says he loves me.
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untouchable · 28/12/2013 00:25
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