I don't know why I'm posting really. Just to talk and find out if anyone has been where I am and understands.
I love my dp. We have been together for 2 and a half years and live together. He is wonderful, he enriches my life so much.
I am quite young (25). He is 2 years older. He has a ds who is 7. His ds lives a 3 to 4 hour drive away due to his mum moving away, so dp sees him every other weekend and half of the holidays.
I am so broody. I want a child of my own so very much. It actually aches to think about it. I wouldn't want to have a child with anyone but him.
We spoke about it. I explained how I feel, but also that I know logically that now isn't the right time. I have only just got started on my career. I explained that I always imagined having children with the next 3-4 years. I don't normally plan my life like this. But by telling myself it would happen soon, I was able to keep the broody feelings at bay a little, although even then it wasn't easy.
He wants children too. But, he said he would have to wait until either his ds is old enough to understand (not a specific age, as every child is different). He said it would be so different if his ds lived close and he could see him more regularly. He's understandably worried that it would greatly upset his ds to see his dad with another child, when they can only see eachother fortnightly.
I totally understand how he feels. I would probably feel similar if it was the other way around. I'm just sad, because I don't know how long I'll have to wait.
He completely respects how I feel, and he was so upset. He obviously cannot comprimise how he feels, but is really upset at the thought of me comprimising too. He was worried it woukd be a dealbreaker for in the future. It's not and it won't be, I love him far too much for that to happen.
So, I guess I'm not asking 'what should I do?' because there is nothing to do that I would want to do. I'm just wondering if anyone has ever had similar feelings. We're (me and dp) sure it will happen one day, just not as soon as I hoped. So I'm just wondering how to cope with this achey broodiness that I feel.
Thanks for reading - I think it ended up a little long!
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I feel so broody...but it's not the right time
LollyPop87 · 27/12/2013 19:32
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