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StupidMistakes · 25/12/2013 21:01

I have moved into a shared property. Me and one of the house mates sort of clicked together and we have become quite close (borrowing each others things etc, spending time with his brother, looking out for each other) we have DTD more than once (shameful I know but we are both single)

He has said more than once that he would like to come out with me and my best friend. I like him a lot. However I won't kiss him and last time we dtd it felt different. I can't describe it. Before it was filling our needs last time it was different. There was no rush no urgency just a closeness but I won't fall I dont know how he feels.

Also we have been talking about more private things and we have things in common. I'm thinking do I let him come out with us n see what happens?

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EllaFitzgerald · 25/12/2013 21:08

It's not shameful at all. You're presumably both free and single. You're grown adults and not hurting anyone.

The thing that would concern me is what happens if it doesn't go well? Would you feel like you had to leave the house?

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StupidMistakes · 25/12/2013 21:31

Nah I don't think we would ever make each other feel thy uncomfortable that one of us needed to leave. We are both single (well I'm divorced) so not hurting anyone. He's quite shy in some ways but seems to be getting more comfortable around me. We both walk around half naked share food etc has offered to cook for me

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KouignAmann · 25/12/2013 21:46

Hey Stupid Happy Christmas! Smile
It sounds like you have a nice thing going on there. You are going about it in a rather unorthodox order starting with sex and working backwards to dating but there aren't any rules.
Get to know him and find out whether he is a nice guy!

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StupidMistakes · 27/12/2013 18:12

Well I returned home after Christmas away to one very happy flat mate when he got in from work

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