omg anxiety over this...

[wontletmesignin]

I bought ds3's dad a gift for christmas ages ago. Put it with the pile of presents and forgot about it.

I bought another gift. So now theres two.

Its making me feel anxious as im giving him two gifts. Stupid, i know.

To be fair ...the first one i bought was from ds and is plain to see. The second one i had both me and ds in mind when buying it.

Would you think anything if you got two gifts off your childs father who you are no longer with?

[mammadiggingdeep]

I'd think you're a grown up person with no bad feeling and a kind heart.

Does it matter what he thinks of you?

[tribpot]

Sounds a bit like you're over-thinking it. Why not keep the one that isn't from your ds, and use it next year/give it to someone else?

[80sdrummer]

I'd think that you were mature, thoughtful and generous and had a good relationship with your ex?

[wontletmesignin]

Yes i over think everything. My anxiety has been up lately, so probably the reason behind this freak out - over something so small!

I had thought about taking one gift away, but then i dont think one or the other is good enough on their own.

I dont suppose it does matter what he thinks of me, on the big scale of things.

Anxiety...how i hate it

[tribpot]

I know - wrap them up as one present. That way it looks like one but you don't have to worry that either is too small on its own. Not that it matters in the slightest but I thought this might be the best remedy for your anxiety.

[wontletmesignin]

Yes we have a great relationship

[wontletmesignin]

Great idea tribpot that might help.

Thank you.

[mammadiggingdeep]

Yes, wrap as one, then tuck them under pressies and forget about it.

Anxiety is a bastard!

[wontletmesignin]

It really is mamma. Who'd of thought giving presents could cause so much anxiety ha. Its ridiculous how it has made me feel

[mammadiggingdeep]

I understand that. Sometimes I'll stress over the smallest thing and its not til I've stepped away and say, the next day I realise that it was my anxiety 'thing'. Just take a deep breath and occupy yourself elsewhere... :) like starting the Xmas choccies :) xx

[Pheonixisrising]

it just shows what a caring person you are

get those chocolates open now , start scoffing and relax

merry Christmas from a new user

[wontletmesignin]

Thank you all. Chocolate sounds like a very good plan

Merry Christmas!!

[mammadiggingdeep]

Phoenix...is that who I think it is???

[Pheonixisrising]

just joined this evening

this question popped my mumsnet cherry !

[mammadiggingdeep]

Oh right!! Thought you were another poster...

Welcome though :)

[Cabrinha]

I may have you muddled up with someone... but have you recently split up with a wanker of an ex, and this ex is a different one that you want to get back with? In which case, I can see why you're overthinking presents!

Fab idea from poster above who said just wrap them up together!

[wontletmesignin]

Yes cabrinha. That's me.
Yup have to agree. Wrapping them together eased my anxiety.

Now everything is prepared for tomorrow, i am feeling a lot calmer woohoo!

[wontletmesignin]

He was chuffed to bits with his pressies
He got me a lovely jacket

[tribpot]

All good! Have a lovely day.

[Cabrinha]

Ah that's nice to hear!

[Ledkr]

I buy for exh his dp (ow) and their two dds as they are my children's family. It's a great lesson for my own dc and I have to say they also buy gifts for my dd as does my ex mil. Complicated but lovely too.

[wontletmesignin]

Thank you. We have all had a great day. Really, really tired now!
Hope you have all had an amazing day!

Ledkr that is really good. Like you say, it is a good lesson for the kids too.
It sounds more lovely than complicated

[Whatnext074]

Phoenix - welcome, good name, that was going to be my name change which may have confused mamma. I'll have to think again...

wontletmesignin - glad you had a good day and hope the anxiety calms soon for you.

[tiamariaxxx]

Doesnt matter i dont think :)